(Closed) I'm MOH and I want out…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Wow… She is several levels of unhinged. You dodged a cannonball by backing out. She doesn’t even have the dress? I can’t even fathom letting someone like that near the edges of my life, let alone back into it. Keep her at a far distance for good, and agree with PPs, block her in every way, shape, and form.

And ignore the texts from other people you’ll get asking why you backed out (because her personality is one of someone who will try to get other people involved to pressure you into changing your mind.) You said no. That’s all that needs to be said. 

Post # 63
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Worker bee

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jackiebee :  but only if she has enough points to be Moh right? Hahaa thsts all I could think of while reading this

Post # 64
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Honey Beekeeper

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fluffthoughts :  Lying and manipulation usually leads to the end of a friendship. I would decline the wedding invitation when it comes and move on. 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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fluffthoughts :  As entertaining as this saga is for us bees it’s also REALLY SCARY! You are about to be a new mom and you have this really unstable person sneaking over to your house under false pretenses and shrieking when she doesn’t get her way. What does your DH think of all this? Consider at least getting a restraining order in place or order of protection if she pulls anything else like that. 

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with previous posters. I wouldn’t attend the wedding either. 

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

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fluffthoughts :  OP, any updates? Has she stopped stalking you? At the very least I’d like some assurance she hasn’t peeled your face off and started wearing it as her own. 

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Maybe I’m paranoid but with her latest actions you should be cautious about traveling alone – even to and from home.  There’s a lot of red flags with her actions and I wouldn’t be surprise if she doesn’t actually have a wedding but for some reason wants to corner you.

Ignore her texts and attempts of contact… and keep an eye out for a suspicious vehicle around your area.  Maybe she is just a really ODD person.  But I can’t imagine coming by uninvited, parking further away, AND lying to manipulate someone who you barely know without having dark intentions.

Post # 69
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Came here to say you could tell her you talked to your doctor and was advised to not particiipate, but then I read your update! Good for you for standing up to crazy. You don’t need that kind of unpredictable craziness when you’re about to give birth. I’ll bet this is still probably just the tip of the iceberg with this hot mess.

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

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fluffthoughts :  it’s just so crazy she still wants to be friends.. yet you aren’t even friends!! it’s all just a whole new level of scary crazy. i hope this soon becomes a memory for you and nothing more. 

on the off chance… do you or your mom know any of her family? i know many people will say to just stop with this situation and not engage. but she’s SO CRAZY that i’d be tempted to reach out to family and ask if everything is ok she seems mentally unwell. if this can be asked in a very tactful way. of course, say you do this. what if the rest of the family is just as crazy and then they confront her and make it worse. :/ i guess i’d keep up the ignoring. i wouldn’t block though because i’d like to know if she is continuing to try to talk to me and i’d like to know if she gets crazier. the more you know the more you can protect yourself. and the more you have to show the police if the time ever comes. 

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper

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fluffthoughts :  Good for you. Just keep ignoring. She’ll catch on that radio silence means no, we can not still be friends.

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