Post # 1
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Newbee
Hey girls!
I’ve lived away from home in college and it was fine. I didn’t cry or feel lonely or miss my family to an extreme. I loved it actually.
After graduating, I moved back into my parents’ house for 1 year. Now I am officially moving out and start moving my stuff tonight when my boyfriend gets off work.
I am so happy/anxious to move in with my boyfriend, but all of a sudden I am feeling so sad about leaving home. I guess because this time it feels permanent? Oh my gosh, I like want to cry while typing this! I don’t know what is wrong with me. I have a younger brother and sister that are middle and high school age, so I also feel sad that I won’t get to see them every day like I have been the past year. I feel like I’ll be missing out on them growing up. Did I mention I am moving just 25 minutes away (hahah I know I am being ridiculous)??? I know I can come home and visit whenever, but UGH I just feel totally sad about it right now. It is just hitting me hard that I probably will NEVER live with my family again.
The worst thing is… I don’t want my boyfriend to see how upset I am because I don’t want him to think I am regretting my choice to get a place with him because that’s not the case at all.
I’m also PMSing so maybe that’s why my emotions are so overwhelming right now.
Did any of you feel this way?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I think that’s normal. My DH and I are moving into a house soon, and even though everything is great about it, I feel SO SAD! I have so many nice memories in our old place, so I think even when you are leaving a place for a better one, it’s tough. Even though I don’t live at home anymore, I know I will be a wreck when my mom decides she’s selling our childhood home.
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
Totally normal. When I was away at college it was different because I still came back to “my” room. The days I spent packing up and completely cleaning out my room was very difficult for me. I know I am always welcome back but there is just something different about my parent’s house no longer being my permanent home.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
@alohakay: Totally normal. This is a change, and it’s normal to be sentimental. You have lots to look forward to, and you’ll adjust before you know it.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
It’s completely fine and normal. All change is loss of some kind. Even though the outcome is a postive one you are in essence loosing your previous way of life. It’s normal. Have some wine and cry a bit. 🙂
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Totally normal. I cried. It’s where I spent my last 8 years of memories. You will move on though and be happy starting somewhere new and making new memories.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@alohakay: Yes, yes, YES! I feel the same way. The worst part is that I HATE living with my parents. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom is legit psycho. I think it’s just a, “Holy shit, I’m growing up and moving away from every memory I’ve had in this house. I’m not that little girl anymore. My parents are getting older. OMG”
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@alohakay: You sound just like me. I had a really hard time when I moved out, I think part of it was being an only child so I knew it was hard on my mom. Don’t worry its normal, and it will pass.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
yeah totally normal!!!! When I moved out my parents house I wasn’t crying but I was a little sad because that was my room and so much had happened in that room of mine hehehe….but at the same time I was full of joy because I was finally being fully independent and moving to my own place. I myself was only moving 25 min. away and I used to visit my parents like every week now it’s like every 2 weeks because I am just so happy to come home to my own place 🙂
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I was really excited to leave, but I do better with my family when we have limited interactions. My sister is a piece of work.
BUT my sister moved into my old room and completely re-did it. It makes me sad that my room is gone now. It was so pretty! I designed my room when I was 14, and now it’s gone. And her old room is still a hot mess, so I go for a visit and the room I sleep in is terrible and it doesn’t feel much like home anymore. I think it will be better when SO and I finally get a permanent place that we can paint and decorate to our hearts’ content.
It will get better though, soon your place with your BF will feel like your home!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
I cried like a baby when I moved out of my parents’ house and I only moved 10 mins away. =/
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
This was me two months ago 🙂 it just seemed so much more final than going to uni. I’m honestly still finding it hard even after this long (i did move a little further away). But it is nice going to sleep and waking up next tothe guy I love every single day, you’ll be fine ^^
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
It’s totally normal. I lived away from my parents during college and moved back for a year and a half after I graduated. I officially moved out 8 years ago and have been living in apartments since… and recently I was watching Father of the Bride and the scene where she’s packing up her old room the night before her wedding totally made me tear up. It’s sad when it really feels like a permanent transition! There are even better days to come, though, so keep that in mind. Adulthood is pretty awesome. 
Post # 15
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Busy bee
That’s completely normal. I lived at home (aside from having to do a practicum for school for a few months out of town) my entire life up until getting married at 23. The days leading up to the wedding my mom and I cried all the time about it haha.. I only moved 7 minutes away.
It’s totally normal and once you move out it will be fine! I see my parents still a few times a week and talk on the phone almost every day.
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Totally understandable. I was sad when I moved out, heck I was 27 and had lived in that house for 23 years. Change brings up emotions and that’s normal. You’ll be just fine 🙂
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