(Closed) I'm nervous to even start dress shopping with my Mum…

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  Oh dear…That is such a sticky situation! My own mother is very vocal about my flaws but we don’t really get along. You certainly aren’t alone! Is telling her your feelings completely out of the question? If you don’t feel comfortable with telling her then can you have someone come along and ask them to watch over her? If she makes a comment then this other person could quickly change subjects or cover it with postive feedback? 

Post # 4
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ZebraPrintMe:   Are we sisters???  LOL   My mom is EXACTLY the same way.  And I’m bigger than you.  I seriously worried my mom would do just what yours did.  At my first appointment I took my mom and also a friend who is the most positive person I know.  Ahead of the visit I told my friend I was worried mom would have me in tears in, like, five minutes flat.   My friend stepped up and the moment I came out of the dressing room she immediately went into high praise mode and that really helped.  Even when the dress looked awful and we all knew it, hearing something good was a huge help.  

*hugs* to you, honey, I know just how it feels.  Hang in there.  

Post # 5
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  on I know exactly how u feel! My mum is the same! I’m size 12, and for an Asian girl, 12 is quite big so she never stop reminding me how fat I am and that I need to lose weights! When I took her to do wedding dress shopping with me, we even had an argument and  said she won’t attend my wedding! (she came to my wedding in the end anyways) and on the wedding day, she said to me that my makeup aren’t that good and I looked old! 

My mum is like that. She never said that I’m beautiful or anything! We didn’t have a good relationship so I just stopped asking her for opinions… It’s sad but why would I ask when I already knew she will hurt my feeling anyWays?

im sorry I couldn’t give you any advice here but I just want you to know that you’re not alone and I know exactly how you feel!

sending you big big hugs. Hope things will work out for you.

Post # 6
803 posts
Busy bee

There’s no harm in starting without your mom. You realize that things are not perfect in your relationship, and for your own sake, and safety, you have decided to start the experience on your own. And you don’t ever have to tell her. Just go try some dresses on, see what you like and what you don’t like. When you have a good sense, and feel ready to bring her in, schedule a mother-daughter appointment. Smile

Post # 7
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ZebraPrintMe:  Ugh!  Mom’s can be the worst like that.  I would research bridal salons in my area that have lots of different sizes.  I would also talk to my mother before we go out and forbid her from mentioning my weight.  You could also bring with you a supportive friend or sister who can shut your mother down if she’s getting out of line.

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