(Closed) im not a muslim but i have a question

posted 6 years ago in Muslim
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hijab and cute do not usually go together. That kind of defeats the purpose. There are also many “flavors” of hijab, and the minimum religious requirements will vary with the exact “flavor” of Islam she practices, just like some things are a little different between Catholics and Protestants.

I’d suggest you talk to your cousin and not the Internet. She can describe (and probably in great detail) what her religion allows her to wear.

I’d also strongly suggest you base your decision on asking her to be a bridesmaid on your love for her, and not on how a hijab may look in a wedding photo or if Uncle Mike will think it’s weird.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well the challenge there is not really knowing what you have as boundaries. But she is a grown woman who is used to being a Muslim in a largely Christian society (and, sadly, one in which there is way too little tolerance and way too much ignorance). Just the fact that she wears the hijab shows that she is strong in her faith. She will be just fine if you tell her that you’re just not familiar with her religious requirements, and ask her for her advice. In fact, you’ll probably end up learning a bit about her faith, and bonding over it.

Don’t forget to consult her on any dietary requirements!

But I think talking to her, and involving her at least in the idea-gathering stage, is better than trying to make decisions or get ideas without really knowing what her religion says.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree that you’ll need to talk to your friend directly about her options.  I don’t feel like I’m able to make any suggestions because I’m not really sure what she wears on a daily basis and what’s appropriate to her religious beliefs.  It sounds like a simple colour coordination will work – good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you just want it to coordinate that’s easy! All my muslim friends have different scarves to match every outfit, all colours, some embellished and some not. I don’t know if an “alternative” would be better than a pretty scarf anyways 🙂 Good luck and talk to her about it the same time you talk about the dress!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think she can wear a hijab in the colors and material that you pick, as long as it’s not sheer. It will be beautiful. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

FIRSTLY – It’s great that you want her as a bridesmaid and are considering her religious dress etiquette, asking for suggestions, etc, before you approach her. You seem like a lovely cousin 🙂

There is no reason why she can’t wear a hijab that coordinates colour wise with your colours, and they CAN look cute, I live in the UAE, I see many cute and colourful Hijabs on a daily basis, I also wear them on occasion.

Here is a nice style hijab, that can be worn with a long flowy, long sleeved dress with similar colours for example, no reason why you can embellish a lil flower of some twinkle too.

Hijab-Scarf-Styles

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’m Muslim, and I wear hijab. I also attend a lot of formal events. There are plenty of women who like to “style” their hijabs, but I’m not really too fond of it. I usually just wrap it around my head and wear a lace headband with it. Here are some of my formal looks at weddings.

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

this is a really awesome website where you can order beautiful hijabs : http://www.velascarves.com/

There are also a ton of hijab style blogs and websites. Just googling it gives you lots of options. Some pretty examples:

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@missmarchmommy:  Your best bet is probably to pick a line of dresses that has some modest full length options, and see about getting extra or coordinating fabric that she can use to cover her hair. One of my college roommates was an observant Muslim and she always looked so beautiful for formals (and everyday – I would sell an arm for her facial features!).

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

mrscheetos  Sorry to threadjack, but I just have to say that every time i see you post a picture of yourself I am stunned by how beautiful you are.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@eeniebeans:  I was just going to say that. SO BEAUTIFUL.

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