Post # 1
So I went in to see my doctor for another checkup and to discuss an up coming surgery. He sent in a nurse to draw some blood for tests and before she even started she left to return with the doctor. She wanted to notify him that I had “track marks”, no thats not what they are and I had to spend almost an hour convincing them.
They were stretch marks, right in the crevice where they draw blood. I have been 5’9” since I was in 4th grade, I grew really fast I mean FAST. I also weighted nearly 300 pounds in middle school so all of this combined and I have stretch marks everywhere on my body, I dont think I have a part that doesnt have them. I had to sit there and justify it while they judged me continuously about my past history. It was emotionally draining to go back over all of that. I mean Im not skinny at the moment still have more to lose but to have to sit and tell them all this and fight with them over what I know is right I dont think I can go back there. They judged me continuously not believing any of it. I have medical records missing for years so they couldnt check because well I grew up poor and doctors where only for emergencies. I didnt have any pictures as proof because I hated how I looked and avoided cameras. I feel I just finished a battle to clear my name and no matter what I feel if I go back they are just going to treat me like I was lying. Emotionally I hate everything about that appointment but I cant afford to go somewhere else for my surgery or get another specialist considering I will be recovering in the hospital for months and cant drive hours away for appointments. I dont know what to do but I just needed to rant and get it all out there after this horrible appointment.
Post # 3
@minted: I’m sorry that happened to you! My reaction is that the nurse was being professional and just doing her job by notifying the doctor. It is their duty to question you. I doubt they were judging you and you may have just been projecting this part. Why do you think they didn’t believe you?
I know how this feels though. Once I had nosebleeds as a sypmtom of an underlying illness and the doctor sent me for bloodwork, including drug testing without telling me. At first I was really mad, but then later just recognized she was doing her job and covering her bases.
Post # 4
@hotpinkbride: Im a nurse too so I understand what she was doing but the doctor came in and said that I didnt include my history of drug use and it needs to be on my chart. When I explained that they were stretch marks he didnt believe me. He said that my treatments wouldnt be affect if I admit to the history of drugs. He didnt believe me and said he has never heard of stretch marks appearing there. He yelled at me for lying about it and questioned if I was still using. I have been in and out of hospitals for almost 5 years trying to get a diagnosis and no one has questioned it before. He repeatedly accused me and told me to stop lying that I would have to tell him the truth.
I wouldve been fine if he asked to run a drug test just to verify but for the fact he kept calling me a liar and yelling Im pissed. I dont hate the nurse she did her job but the doctor just pushed too much on something that he was wrong about.
Post # 5
@minted: You were treated appallingly, I’m disgusted for you! i would have demanded they take some blood for a drug test just to shut them up. And especially since the doctor was so convinced, would it not be in his duty of care to drug test due to potential reactions from anaesthetics?
Post # 6
That is ridiculous. Stretch marks are pretty obvious to know what they are too…? I would find a different doctor, even if it’s not as convenient.
Post # 7
@minted: The way you were treated is horrible. The doctor seriously couldn’t tell the difference between stretch marks and tracks? I’d seriously consider finding another doctor when you are able to. The way the nurse and doctor questioned you and yelled at you is totally uncalled for.
I can see the nurse bringing the doctor in to look but to not believe you is just terrible.
I can sympathize with you. I have fibro and axiety disorder. I have scripts for several controlled substances. My insurance freaks out from time to time and sends me info on substance an use and rehab. I hate it. I’ve called many times to complain. Seeing a new doctor who doesn’t know my history is always a crapshoot. Some doctors are understanding, others not so much. I always feel awful when I get accused of being a pill popper.
Hang in there. Hope the surgery goes well and you have a speedy, complete recovery.
Post # 8
@minted: Even if you were an addict (I know you arent, but if you were), how does treating you like that help you? If you are an addict, you need to feel safe and being an A** never made anyone feel safe– Ugh I’m angry for you!
Post # 9
I have the joy of working with patients who are current/foremr drug addicts. I don’t think I’ve ever looked at soemone’s tracks and been like “Is that a stretch mark?” Switch Doctors.
Post # 10
Ewww I had a stretch mark disaster too at the gyno many years ago…but I still remember it. I have them on the inside of my legs and on my belly (not sure if she was concerned about the belly) but she thought I was a cutter!
Post # 11
@Deejayelle: if he wouldve said that he just wanted to confirm with tests for it I wouldve been completely content but the why he treated me just blew me through the roof. I’m happy the doctors I work with are nicer and they even said it didnt look like track marks, yes probably a second glance but nothing major.
@BlondeMissMolly: I really am considering it to find another doctor. I asked for other recommendations from a doctor i work with just so I can look.
Post # 12
@minted: yeah that is not a good sign of his competence or bedside manner.
Post # 13
I would find a new doctor. your doctor is suppose to be your advocate, have your back. it one thing to question it, but to basically call you a liar??? uh no. get outta there!
Currently im going thru some health issues and tests are not showing up anything but i know whats going on and happening to me. ive been freaking out about it. my doctor understands how frustaing it is, and is very caring towards me. ive had a few ccrying fits in her office because i feel like no one understands. but your doctor is suppose to be the one you trust the most!!!
Post # 14
My SIL had something similar happen to her when she was pregnant with my nephew. She tested positive for drugs, which was bad enough, but she offered to submit to another test (urine or blood, and it could have been there or somewhere else), knowing it was a false positive, but the doctor refused. SIL had many sleepless nights because that doctor was threatening to take her son away at birth without even doing a back-up test.
I agree with PP who say you should completely trust your doctor. Definitely see if you can find another before your surgery and ditch this a**.