(Closed) I’m not as pathetic as I sound… Mr Bees pact :)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You are not pathetic! Actually I am in a similiar boat with friends and constantly moving. I know you said you are super busy with day to day life things but my suggestion would be to try to pencil in some you time…. to go to the gym or a class or look into some other activity you have an interest in and try to do that activity twice a month and eventually you will meet people. Also meeting other moms through your daughter could be an idea. Im sorry if this wasnt all that helpful. 

Post # 4
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First of all , I don’t think you should make friends so they can be your bridesmaids- that’s not the point of bridesmaids. Ask your best friends- even if they live all over like you said. You may not have a shower because they don’t live nearby and that would be a big expense and difficult to manage from far away. Maybe they could come a few days early and have a bachelorette party.

Have you tried taking classes at the gym to meet people? Or maybe joining a book club at the library or taking a wine tasting or cooking class? I don’t really have many suggestions for meeting friends. Luckily I have close friends from work, not sure what I’d do if there weren’t girls from work. Good luck!

Post # 7
29 posts

I don’t plan on having a wedding party at all, and I do have friends – albeit it most are male. I do know bridesmaids help to some extent (traditionally paying for a wedding shower, for example), but other than that do they even really do much other than stand there and look beautiful? I’d just pick out some witnesses to sign the marriage license and leave it at that if it’s a concern or if you’re fearful you won’t have enough bridesmaids.


But onto other stuff: going to the gym is an excellent idea. Don’t wear an iPod! While you’re working out, if someone gets onto the machine next to you and they’re not listening to music, try to strike up a little conversation. If there are TVs on and they appear to be idly watching, make a comment about what’s on. At my gym, I overhear enough conversations to know that plenty of women met friends by GOING to the gym (whom they now work out with) – they aren’t just friends who decided to join a gym together.

Believe it or not, there are actually search sites (like dating sites) to find friends. Consider filling out a profile! It may seem a little antisocial but it’s worth it. You could also consider looking for play groups in your area to meet other mothers, or volunteering at schools, daycare, or recreation teams (sports teams) to meet other parents and mothers, if you have the time (which, since you work, this may not be ideal).



Post # 10
27 posts


Do you live in a decent-sized city?  If so, there are probably Meetup.com groups that would offer some opportunities to meet like-minded ppl.

In my area, there are Meetup.com groups for “girls night out”, book clubs and activity groups.

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