(Closed) I'm not even officially engaged and…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lalalyanne:  It can seem overwhelming when you’re doing it alone but once you get engaged you’ll have your fiance and your best friends to help you.  You could always have a morning ceremony and do a luncheon, an evening ceremony with appies, desserts and drinks only or a casual backyard BBQ.  I hope your engagement is just around the corner and happy planning.

Post # 4
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I have similar numbers for family but it’s mostly just my side!


Firstly, cut any plus 1s that aren’t actually long term partners. They will be with their family, they don’t need a guest. (so if you don’t know the girlfriend/boyfriend that well, they aren’t engaged, living together or have been together longer than 1.5years (this time is up to you) – cut them!)


Secondly, remember that you haven’t spoken to your families about this yet, you don’t know if they might be wanting to contribute financially.


Thirdly, you can always do a cake and punch (+booze :P) reception. They can be lovely and very romantic and family orientated. 


Fourthly – STOP! Stop planning NOW! You need to be able to actually enjoy some of your engagement time without thinking about these things. You’ve made your list, you’ve had your freak out, now put it away and walk away. There will be plenty of time for this later when you have your support system in place to help.


Post # 5
2684 posts
Sugar bee

I did the same thing at first and I know it can seem super overwhelming. I had my christmas card list, along with other people written down and typed onto labels because I printed the Christmas addresses off. Sooooo I had already known with adding some people from work and whatnot that my list would be big…..my family is on the larger side so I already anticipated it. My side as of right now is 180 and my fiance’s is 45. He doesn’t talk to his real dad or any of that family so he didn’t have many people to invite. The close friends for him are in the wedding. Our parents are helping pay for some stuff so we won’t have to pay for EVERYTHING…I’m guessing our wedding will be around $7000 though still.

Take  a step back, STOP PLANNING and enjoy this time period 🙂

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