Post # 1
So, my Fiance and I have begun the wedding planning process three or four times now. Each time, we get flustered over cost and put everything aside. It is the second marriage for both of us and though neither of us really had a “wedding” the first go round, we are thinking about foregoing the big shindig altogether and just running off. So, my question to you lovely folks is:
Any suggestions for a destination wedding/elopement?
We will probably do informal invitations to immediate family and the closest of friends. Those that would like to and/or can afford to join us will be more than welcome. But we just want a lovely setting for us to go and get hitched and then perhaps have a small cookout/reception upon our return. And, of course, if you have any tips, pros/cons, or other helps tidbits for planning and executing this sort of thing, all is quite welcomed.
Post # 3
I have been looking into destination wedding, but the downside is that even some of your closest family members may not be able to make it who you really want to be there for you guys, think about what You and your FH want for your wedding and what is most important for both of you and what you want to remember about it. Also, with elopement you may never hear the end of it with your family. You can keep it small and informal if you want with close family for a cheaper wedding. If you have trouble with the overwhelming cost of wedding budgets, look online for tips on budget weddings you could have a wedding literally for under $2000 instead of $25000. have both of you write down in order of what you guys want seperately and then compare lists and go from there. If you can you can do lots of DIY and wear your mother’s dress or rent it? you could get married outside with nature’s beauty for a backdrop/decoration or at a church either one of you attend for sometimes no price at all and it could be around Christmas time with the church’s decorations that will already be set up so you don’t have to pay for it.
Post # 4
This is the second time we’ve re-negotiated our wedding plans, first one went down the drain due to cost and stress as well. We’ve now decided to jet off to Rarotonga in the Cook Islands with a few close family members and our closest friends. And it’s the best decision I think we’ve made, due to a few reasons:
- No wedding planning stress! Not one bit! The resort we’re using has a wedding package that includes everything from the celebrant, to the floral arch, to the photographer for one set price. You just have to turn up on the day and say “Where do you want me?”
- I loved the idea of having exactly who YOU want there, not inviting FI’s grandmother’s sisters nephew because you have to. But you’ll find out who really wants to be there also.
- We’re only having between 10-20 people, nice and small group of people
- The overall price is so much cheaper…
- We’re not having a reception either, after the ceremony we’re going to make a group booking at a local restaurant and just have dinner. Followed by drinks.
- Having a low-key BBQ and drinks with everything who could and couldn’t make it when we get back.
I believe it was the overall “Omg, where do I begin? There’s so many people to think about. So many people equals so much more money,” that strssed me out something chronic. If you decide to go for a destination wedding, the venue (or resort) that does the packages will usually have a wedding planner to assist you.
Good luck choosing!
Post # 5
@decker423m: sounds like fun. I was daunted at the beginning, even changed my location from one country to another, changed the date by 6 mnths. it can be a lot of fun, involves a lot of googling. there are many locations, the caribean, europe, mexico, asia, pacific, nz, aus, anywhere lol.
Post # 6
i know how u feel. Fiance and i have been set on a dw the whole time, but the more i stress about it and the more i hear ppl say theyd love to come but probably cant (when i know they prob could if they really tried), like it all just makes it so stressful that it really takes away from the allure of the destination altogether. ive been sort of second guessing myself the last couple of months thinkin that the island we have been thinking about maybe isnt the most beautiful one, but then i back up and think ‘what the heck am i thinking, of course this is one of the most beautiful islands in the world’. the whole point was to keep guests away that we didnt like or want to invite and do no bridal party, but i never dreamed that his wealthy family would not want to go to be with us. i expect to really find out who cares about us in about one year.
anyways rant over, and to answer ur question, an idea for dw locations would be us virgin islands, thats where we have been planning to plan. its only 3 hours by flight from miami and the beaches r beautiful. they use american money, speak english, and no passport needed. although they do drive on the other side of the road. theres a ton of nice resorts that do package weddings for a couple thousand dollars or so, but i think we will go with the local coordinator to help take the stress off of me.
Post # 7
@decker423m: We are both on the Gulf Coast so I’ll let you know my plans. How far are you looking for the destination to be? Would a 4.5 hour drive be too long?
I found a GORGEOUS beach home in Destin, Fl that is fairly affordable during the off season (Oct-Feb). For a week, it’s $3,800 and sleeps close to 30 people. It has ipod sound system throughout the house so we’re nixing a dj/band. Enough dining area to seat everyone. Places on the beach and on site for the ceremony. Heated pool, outdoor cooking area, etc. We’ll save on cooking ourselves and providing our own alcohol. Here’s some pictures..
Post # 8
@sweetdee522: That place is gorgeous! 🙂
Post # 9
We are having a wedding in St Vincent and the Grenadines. It’s about 50 min plane ride from Barbados and there are 32 islands. We will honeymoon there after. I never saw myself doing a big wedding, so I’m OK with people not coming. Less stress for me and less drama from everyone wanting their way. My fiance will have a hard time coming to the US anyway, so SVG is the place for us. Since you’re in Louisiana, Florida or the USVI will be an easy trip and like a PP said, no passport needed!