Post # 1
Long time lurker, first time poster. I’m getting married in August and have no idea what kind of dress I want. Everyone has been on my case saying I need to get shopping or I’ll run out of time. Knowing they are right, I booked an appointment for tomorrow. I’m dreading it. I know it’s supposed to be a fun thing, but I’m unhappy with how I look right now and getting more and more anxious the closer the appointment gets. Earlier this week I went shopping for bridesmaid dresses and was completely discouraged after not being able to put on many of the samples. They only had them in a 8 or 10 (which the sales woman explained was more like a 4 or 6 for this designer) and most of them had a tight slip inside meaning I couldn’t even get them up. I pointed out to the woman that they likely wouldn’t fit before taking them in the dressing room but she laughed it off and said there were all sorts of “tricks” they could do to get them on. I have no idea what she was thinking but obviously it wasn’t that simple. I left after ordering a dress that I didn’t even try on because I just wanted to get out of there.
Everyone keeps telling me wedding dresses are different because many tie up in the back but I’m already so down on myself and don’t want to feel like I did at the bridesmaid appointment again. To make matters worse, I have a UTI that makes me feel just generally yucky and unattractive.
I really want to have fun tomorrow but I’m just not into it. I’m worried that if shopping makes me feel this depressed that I’ll end up feeling this way on my wedding day as well.
Thanks for listening, bees. I know there’s nothing that can be done now but just had to get it off my chest.
Post # 2
supernova : I went through something really similar to you, I had similar bridesmaids dress shppping experiences in the past. While I have lost weight (25lbs) I still don’t fit into a 6… even then I was able to try on ALL of the dresses that I wanted to. That first time I had an appointment I didn’t sleep the night before I was so upset, and for nothing. They not only had dresses that fit me, they also had plus sizes that were way too big for me. I wish you the best of luck, don’t be hard on yourself, try and have some fun!! It may go much better than you think. I know for me, bridesmaid dress shopping was AWFUL and all the dresses were tiny and I felt like a sausage, but wedding dress shopping I felt absolutely beautiful.
Post # 3
Please do not worry! I was really scared about going but the dresses were surprisingly flattering and the staff were so lovely.
It’s true that they can use inserts and clips to make them do up – and they often stock different sizes too. If this shop doesn’t work out, it might be worth calling around next time to make sure they stock a range of sizes in advance.
Post # 4
supernova : I felt this way before I started dress shopping but I had a wonderful experience at David’s Bridal and they have a lot of plus sizes. I’m a size 14 but they brought size 16 dresses as it’s always recommended to have more room than lesser. The consultants were also very good at finding dresses that suit my body typeI. If you don’t have a good experience at the store you go to, definitely try David’s Bridal.
Post # 5
Don’t stress! Granted I only went in one bridal salon where I found my dress, but all of the samples I tried one were between a size 10-14. Some designers run closer to actual street size. For example I ordered a size 12 Mori Lee dress and I was a size 10/12 in regular clothes. Not all designers run teeny tiny.
Post # 6
I am so sorry! I did not realize it was hard to find a dress that fits. 🙁 I will pray for you!
Post # 7
I did not enjoy the process of dress shopping at all. I hated the way I looked and felt frustrated putting on dresses that were amazing on the hanger only to have them be awful on my body. I found it helpful to go shopping alone at smaller dress shops. Working with a knowledgeable stranger and not having others there to see how big my thighs looked in the mermaid cut made the process a little less yucky. That being said, know you will feel joy and relief when you find the right one. Good luck!
Post # 8
I dreaded it I put it off till the last minute. I’m plus size and couldn’t find a picture of anything I liked online and did not want to see dresses that wouldn’t Even fit me. Call around and look for stores that carry your sizes. Make a trip out of it if you have to. Where some shapewhere. They can clip dresses to show you what they look liked I actually felt I got a better picture when they did this then when they tried to clip a larger dress down. Try on everything all kinds of styles. One store I just did not click with I hated every dress I tried on and was thinking I would not find anything I liked and would have to settle. Another store had tons of dresses that were pretty. They had a bustier you were and it made a huge difference in how I looked. You will find something you may have to look a little harder but you will find something you like.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2019 - Queens, NY
I’m on the same boat and getting married in August. I like dress shopping alone and having someone in the shop help me because I am still trying to lose weight. I am thinking about renting a dress or buy if one is lower price than renting. I’m not freaking about it though because I feel that at the end of the day, I will be happy with something that will already fit me without waiting months for it (it happened to me when We bought my wedding band where I found an eternity band that fit just right without having to special order and I have Size 3.75 fingers!)
Post # 10
Don’t stress you lol find the dress you sound like me our wedding is in September and I did not want to go dress shopping it seemed overwhelming. So I did what I think was best and bought a weddding dress online. But if you do this be careful and make sure you can return the dress if you don’t like it that’s my only advice.
Post # 11
I wasn’t excited about it either. I don’t like a lot of the traditional bridal looks and assumed it would be stressful and I wouldn’t find anything I liked. It was totally wrong. I ended up only trying on 4 and the second one was “the one.” I fell in love with it. I had an easygoing, happy and memorable dress shopping experience. Don’t dread it, embrace your day with an open mind. It will be ok.
Post # 12
Girl me either. My issue was budget. I was not willing to spend that much.
Lucked out and the 4th dress I tried on and some random store (was a sample) fit. Huge win for me. $2500-3000 for $600. Never even looked like it was tried on before.
My point is… just go! You never know.
Post # 13
Hey bee, only just seen this thread, I was going to say I was not excited either.
How did you get on?
Post # 14
Thanks for the encouragement everyone! My trip last weekend was okay. Many of the dresses were bigger sizes that fit fine or had to be clipped smaller. I didn’t find anything I loved but I didn’t feel discouraged about my size either. I ended up leaving a little overwhelmed because I think I took too many people and didn’t voice my opinion enough.
Today I went to a different store with just my sister and best friend and easily found 3 dresses I really liked. After 2.5 hours of shopping I bought one!! I’m surprised and relieved. Just as you all said, it wasn’t bad after all.
Post # 15
- Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion
I’m so glad to hear you have found something and you seem to be feeling comfortable and confident. That’s why matters. Congratulations bee!