I'm not falling in love with my engagement ring, but its his moms.

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Worker bee

sunnierdaysahead2 :  Hey, just let me have my little fantasy of having a drawer of a half dozen beautiful rings that my sons could choose from to propose with.  LOL.  It’s not likely to go down that way.  

Also, when you marry a man, you also have a relationship with his family.  And a strong relationship with in-laws is a real blessing.  

To the OP, consider this a gift from his family, and it’s a very kind gesture of something old. Go buy something new that you love to go with it.

Post # 47
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88 posts
Worker bee

 

sunnierdaysahead2 :  The reason people put a lot of emotional significance on rings is because women are conditioned since they are little girls to dream of this engagement jewelry and the big wedding dress and all the “stuff”–  since they’re about 4 or 5 years old and playing with dolls.  It’s a fantasy and a great deal of it is marketing BS.  The dream dress and the dream ring and all that jazz is an industry that wants your money, and my money and everybody else’s too.

So it’s fine to have preferences and desires and everything, but life is not and should not be all about the stuff, and the stuff does not make or break a relationship. 

Post # 48
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

mrsbluetomato :  sidenote….this is drool worthy 🤤🤤🤤…do you know where you saw it or was it a general pic?

NEVERMIND…found on Etsy!!!

 

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

kd1025 :  Yep, that’s where I got it from. Fabulous!

Post # 50
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Helper bee

If it were me, I would wear another ring for everyday life and wear this one when I am around the parents or family. If somehow I am ‘caught’, I would simply say that the ring wasnt as practical for everyday wear.

Doing anything else will cause super hurt feelings. And yes, although it is a ring that you will be wearing for the rest of your life, it comes from his mom and has a history.

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