(Closed) I'm not invited to FI's cousin's wedding…and he lied to me about it.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 47
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Bee Keeper

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Boomerang:  I don’t think I’ve read your previous thread(s)? At least that I can remember. It sounds like you’ve both been through tough times & I hope things improve for you, but it’s concerning that you’ve both turned to others (him to his parents, you to your ex-H) in times of trouble rather than being a team. Living apart after having lived together sounds like a step backward in your relationship. You know your Fiance is in an unhealthy situation & yet you won’t let him move in with you. Why would you have to support him? You mention he’s working long hours, he should be able to contribute toward household bills while still paying down debt, that’s the way most of us have to do it. You shouldn’t want to see him living in an unhealthy situation and he shouldn’t want to see you struggling to find a cheaper place while unable to work because of health reasons. Each other’s well being and happiness should be a prime concern- & that includes him not letting his family have such undue influence on him. 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to assume that there’s more to your disability than you’ve relayed in this thread if you chose to RSVP ‘no’ to a family wedding nine months in advance. This doesn’t excuse their behavior, but the bride and groom of the upcoming wedding may have assumed that you would not want to and/or could not come based on your RSVP to the earlier wedding. That being said, they were wrong not to include you, but I get the feeling that there is more to this story than you’re telling us, maybe more to it than you even know yourself. Are you sure that his extended family even knows that you’re still together? It’s an odd relationship situation to say the least. Is there a chance that they made a mistake?

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your own finances are in tough shape. How many people will you be able to afford to invite when your time comes? You may find yourself slashing the guest list and offending a few people.

It is a totally different perspective when you plan a wedding and pay the bill.

If you were snubbed, why give them the power to make you so upset about it? Some people spend their whole lives bickering with and complaining about relatives. Let it go.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

He only lied to spare your feelings. A 45 year old man has to give in and attend a wedding because his parents will be on his case if he doesn’t?

He lives with his parents because of work? Is that temporary? You have been engaged 5 years, is any wedding imminent? Are the 2 of you working towards a place together, not 200 miles apart?

Who cares about this wedding?

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