Post # 1
Do you ever find that most of the time, that we are 99% content when it comes to waiting for that life changing moment where our SO will finally propose?
Well bees, today that 1% where perhaps I am not as content as I thought bit me in the a**. HARD.
Me and SO walked by a wedding dress shop. And I couldn’t help but look, I wish I had resisted but I couldn’t. But a beautiful girl came out of the dressing room section, looking absolutely stunning in her wedding dress and finery. She was beaming and looked so happy.
I think in those 2 seconds I looked at her, my heart sank. And the reality kicked in, I am not engaged. I am not even worthy to look at wedding dresses – I am not getting married, and now I am doubting myself now whether it will happen soon..
I will be ok, and will get back to my 99% usual positive self soon enough. But my gosh, the little things really hit you, and I was totally unprepared.
Luckily I played it cool with my SO – but I think he knows I am in a subdued mood since then.
Stay strong, fellow waiting ladies – stay strong.
Post # 3
awww!!! i know that feeling 🙁 I’m sorry! but i’m glad that you are staying strong!!!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry, I know exactly how this feels. I would find myself excitedly looking at all sorts of wedding websites getting ideas for what I wanted my “wedding” to be like, and then all of a sudden it would hit me that I wasn’t even engaged.
Post # 5
I hate feelings like that 🙁 I’m sorry.
I had a similar feeling just now. I was reading another thread about affordable wedding dress websites and I started going to the links that other bees were posting to look at the dresses. I was finding ones I really liked or thought I’d like to try those types of styles when the time comes. I was about to flip my computer around and show them to the Boyfriend or Best Friend to ask what he thought, but then I stopped myself because I was thinking “Why would I should him wedding dresses? We’re not even engaged yet!”
Those feelings happen every now and again to us waiting girls…it sucks. But we’re strong 🙂
Post # 6
I hear ya. I remember having to feign enthusiasm for people who got engaged before me. Although now….I’m engaged and get little pangs when people announce their pregnancies and births, haha. I guess we just always want what’s coming up next. I guess we should just try to enjoy the stage we’re in and not wish our lives away, but it’s tough when you want something! 🙂
Post # 7
@Juliepants: I’m tryin’ HARD these days to not wish my life away! But you’re right, that is the better way to go out it, no matter how difficult it can be sometimes.
Post # 8
I congratulate you, you’re ready to get married. 🙂 Once my 1% discontent kicked in and began to grow, my whole world turned upside down and I said oh my gosh! I want to marry this person! I’m ready to get married. Maybe it’s time to have some talks with your SO. If you feel that way about him, I’m sure he feels that way about you and maybe it’s just a matter of gently getting the ball rolling.
Post # 9
awww I’m sorry
I had a similar experience about a week ago when we walked by a jewelry store and saw a couple looking at rings and talking to the jeweler.
definitely put a damper on that day… l’m trying to avoid jewlery stores, wedding dress shops altogether at this point. they just make me feel bad.
hopefully the feeling will pass for you soon and you’ll get back to the happy waiting place
Post # 10
Aw! Well when that 1% comes, it comes HARD!! I feel ya! Stay strong, and know IT IS coming and when it does we will hopefully look back on waiting days and laugh 😉
Post # 11
LADIES WE CAN DO THIS… WHEN THAT TIME HITS WAITING WILL BE A THING OF THE PAST AND WE WONT EVEN REMEMBER HOW HARD IT WAS BECAUSE WE WILL BE SO HAPPY….
WE CAN DO THIS!
Post # 12
@kunezerwa: YES! Exactly what she said!
Post # 13
I’m sorry:( I feel the same way sometimes and it sucks. I look at dresses online and i want to show him but i know i can’t becaue we aren’t engaged yet. Hopefully your time will come soon and you will be the one trying on the lovely gowns 🙂
Post # 14
Oooh! I know! I do that occasionally whenever we go past the jewlery store in the mall… there are always a few couples in their looking/trying on rings. He doesn’t notice but I do.
Its hard to be positive when you feel like its not going to happen when you want it to, or if it will at all.
Post # 15
Thanks ladies, I knew it was just a phase! I feel much better today – just seeing that girl in her wedding dress so happy just hit me hard. I’m fine looking up wedding stuff on line – but it doesn’t have the same kind of reality for me!
I think I was just down last night as the engagement topic has become almost an everyday occurence. So my hopes were well and truly built up before I was bowled over yesterday. Definately a reality check and brought me back down to the ground!
We are strong, independent women! YEAHHH!!
Post # 16
Just be patient. That will be you some day. Remember that being engaged and picked out a wedding dress should only happen once in your life. I bet that time flies by and those experiences are lost to you for the rest of your life. So just enjoy the downtime now and savor those experiences when they come to you in their own time. 🙂