I'm not ok.

posted 7 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I’m so sorry, it sounds like this hit you guys really hard.

Are you in the US? If so I really highly encourage you to file for unemployment. If you receive it you will get back pay to when you lost the job including the extra 600 a week. I know an 18 year old  high schooler who just got thousands because he lost his after school job to COVID. It’s worth it to apply.

Post # 3
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2671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@ellcoll:  Oh my gosh bee. I was moved to tears reading your words. What you’re going through is A LOT for any person to go through. You’ve experienced so many ‘losses’ in this short period of time. You need help. Please reach out to a counselor, family, friend – anybody that can help you during this time of need. I’m concerned about your mental health.

Post # 6
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2944 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@ellcoll:  that’s a whole, whole lot. You don’t ever have to apologize for feeling your feelings and especially when life has been so damn difficult. My heart and prayers are with you and your fiance.

Post # 7
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1614 posts
Bumble bee

Can you take a simple, filler job for now? Like a …redo your resume, and work as a cashier,…whatever, job? 

It sounds like the lack of funds and stabity.is very hard to cope with. Take a small easy job for now until you find something better. It will be less stress and income but that might be a good space for you right now to get your feet under you and recover some battery power. 

 

I’ve been there… this will pass…

Post # 8
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574 posts
Busy bee

Feeling trapped is the worst. Honestly, feeling that way in itself makes this a horrible situation.

the good news is feeling trapped doesn’t mean you’re actually trapped. You are trapped in your current circumstances, but circumstances always change. What is happening now is going to be a bitch to get through, but you will!! 

Post # 9
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2671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@ellcoll:  Okay. This is what I recommend. Please immediately apply to every type of government assistance you can. Medicaid – free health insurance, which should help provide the mental health services. Food stamps. Unemployment. Then, please go to your local church or community centers. Tell them your situation and ask to volunteer while you’re job hunting. So many of them are well connected and people land jobs very quickly by getting involved. Also, please reach out to family and friends for support. During times of need, that is what friends and family are for. I’d be devastated if I knew my friend or family is out there suffering when I have a spare bedroom, couch or floor. Please reach out, OP.

Post # 10
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3091 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m so sorry. You have really been affected by the pandemic. It sounds like you have gone through a really hard time. Yea, everyone is affected by the pandemic but some have definitely had it worse than others. I suggest like an above poster that you just take whatever job you can for now–cashier, delivery, whatever you can get your hands on. That would help you get back up on your feet. You’ll probably feel better once you start working, too.

I know you are overwhelmed with everything that is going wrong, but just try to make little steps to make it better (rather than getting overwhelmed with all that you have to do). 

Post # 11
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3460 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m so so sorry to hear about the situation you’re in OP. What country do you live in? Maybe some of the bees can help give more specific advice with this info. Otherwise I completely agree with PPs to take literally any job you can get right now. 

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@ellcoll:  

Post # 12
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578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Geesh, you’ve had a shitty year. Husband and I lost our jobs last year, but we didn’t have to deal with the pandemic. I totally understand the feeling that everything’s outside of your control, and each job you never hear back from is a punch to the gut. Especially the ones that are beneath you. When I couldn’t even get a part time job at the morgue, and saw it reposted twice…that was my ultimate low, fu world, point.

I’m stubborn and like to hold onto my feelings so as not to burden my spouse. But I wouldn’t want him to feel he has to do that with me. He gets really awkward when he doesn’t know how to fix my problems (which is how he often interprets me telling him how I’m feeling–a call to action🙄) He accidentally regurgitated my least favorite phrase a few times “it’s all going to work out” (um, no it’s not magically going to work out. I had to work harder and longer than I ever dreamed and it sucked the whole way). 

But I think opening up to him is your best bet. It’s the one thing within your control right now. You sound like a pretty tough person, but your situation is traumatic. It’s okay to tell him that you’re struggling.

 

Post # 13
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Please also check out food banks/soup kitchens or anyoany that will give food or aid, you are definitely in a situation where it will make a big difference. Do you have any credit that you can use to get by? Normally debt is a bad idea, but it can help you mentally to know if you have to you can use it. 

Post # 15
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6167 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Can you go to a job agency and have them look for any position available? Even general labour is better than nothing. 

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