Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are both undergrads, and summer is approaching way too quickly. We live in different states and neither of us have the resources to travel without our families very often. Last summer was horrible and I don’t see this one going any different. He has an old flip phone and doesn’t like to text unless its to pass on information (not to hold a conversation). He does make an effort to call at least once a week, and have long conversations on Facebook, but his family travels a lot and has a lot of time commitments over the summer (work, volunteering at a sumer camp, an internship and a orchestra tour as soon as the semester ends) some of which don’t allow phones so he can go up to two weeks without wifi or phone access.
I plan to visit him when the new Jurrasic Park movie comes out in June (and he is looking for oporunities to come visit me), and I plan on talking to him about sending letters back and forth but that may get expensive and with all the traveling he will be doing it might be hard to do. We have less than a month left, so does anyone have any ideas on how to go 3.5 months with little contact without being lonley?
PS: I know a lot of people have it a lot worse, and I don’t want to come off as a whiner =)
Post # 2
IveBeenDreaming: kind of in a similar situation except my boyfriend and I are usually apart during the school year (~9 months) bcus i go to school out of state but we are in the same state during the summers. Safe to say, summer is our time. Well last summer I went 10 hours away to intern so we didnt have our usual summer. we kept in contact mostly through facetime (which im assuming u dont have) and email. In addition to phone calls, we also used our tumblr blog (we created it when i first went to out of state college). AS the summer progressed, we both got busy and were just reduced to phone calls and email. which was fine. Im graduating in May so this summer would ordinarily be back to normal, except now he will be interning out of state so we will have to do this distance all over again 🙁
Hang in there girl !! It will go by fast.
ETA: At first I thought I would rather have my bf go to the same college as me, but being in a LDR has actually made us stronger. Grant it, its tough. but it really showed us what we were made of. try to find some positives. Take this time for you and perhaps take up a new hobby or rediscover a former love. AS someone who has interned almost every summer, I would also suggest trying to find some type of work in your field. it may be too late for some internships, but u should be able to find a place to volunteer or something.
Post # 3
The way I got through long distance (and now frequent business trips) is keeping myself busy. Sometimes my husband is out of country on trips and he doesn’t have much access to internet or a phone. Do you have any travel or volunteering you can do yourself so that you are kept busy most of the summer?
Post # 4
It sounds silly but when we were about to be LDR for an undetermined amount of time (was 9 months) I went to build a bear, bought a little bunny and recorded a personal message. I told him no matter what the distance he could always hear me say that I love him before he goes to bed. He then bought me a german shepard from build a bear with a personal message. Now we are together every night, Bunny and Whiskey (german shepard) are on a stand at the end of our bed. It’s small but it helped
Post # 5
I studied aborad in South Africa last summer and he was back home in the states. Because of the time difference and his work schedule and my school schedule it was hard to talk. We emailed a lot, and facetimed when we got a minute. Like a pp said, I got a build a bear (it was really a monkey since I was going to Africa lol) made with him telling me he loved me. I also had a ton of pics of him and our dog around my room. I would tell the monkey I loved him every night and I loved hearing him say it too. Good luck!
Post # 6
mckey430: I’m really interested in the tumblr thing, how did it work? Did you post blogs to eachother as if you would letters? I have a friend in the same situation as you (boyfriend at home, college states away) and its always funny how differently we react when we get close to breaks.
MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I will be working part time, training my sisters dog and traveling a little (to go see my grandparents and to go see him)
theatrejulia: ksn1219: I have a fox he gave me last valentines day and he has a Toothless build-a-bear that I gave him this valentines day. Neither of them have recordings, but I do take the fox with me on trips and sleep withit every night so maybe I can buy the recording things seperatly and sew them into the stuffed animals we already have.
ksn1219: Do all the pictures make you feel better or more sad?
Post # 7
Long distance can be super hard! My fiancé is going to be in Jakarta and Taipei the entire summer this year and I am super bummed out too! We have been long distance on and off for the entire length of our relationship, so about five years now. What helps me a little bit is when we are together we take a lot of goofy photo booth pictures together, and I carry those around with me. We also set aside time each day to talk to each other via Skype Or FaceTime, though I don’t know how possible it will be this summer. We also make books of all of the vacations and trips we took together for us to look at when we are apart. What helps me out the most is keeping busy as PP’s have said. I do have to say I love the build a bear idea! I wish my Fiance would go for that lol he thinks I have too many stuffed animals.
Post # 8
theatrejulia: Probably the cutest thing I’ve ever heard.
Post # 9
IveBeenDreaming: yeah most people I know are like you where they are together during the year and apart during the summer. college will be over soon enough, stick it out… and yeah our tumblr blog consisted of short messages just telling the other we were thinking of them, or random pictures that reminded us of the other, and of course video messages that we recorded in addition to letters. we made it private so it could only be seen by us but when i get super emotional, I go back and look at posts from 3 years ago and it just reminds me of all we been through and to not give up. if its meant to be, you all will make it work. best of luck.