(Closed) I'm not responsible for your shortcomings.

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 75
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1708 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

styjen :  

Your opinion doesn’t bother me. Your nasty attitude does.

You used a derogatory term against Obama because a bee had the audacity to learn about him.

Whenever I hear “go worship your messiah” in reference to Obama, it disgusts me because it’s derogatory.

I’m done feeding the chip on your shoulder.

Post # 76
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166 posts
Blushing bee

Sansa85 :  So, Obama is not balletparker’s Messiah?  From the way she preaches about him at every moment imaginable, it sounds to me like he is.  Maybe it’s my poor Ivy League reading comprehension skills?

Post # 77
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295 posts
Helper bee

styjen :   BalletParker :  it’s interesting you two. “You can make it if you work hard” is at one time the republican position and “the man keeps people down” was the liberal one. Now more often it is left that represent the system and right the  disenfranchised revolutionary. It’s amazing, this switch.  

Post # 78
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166 posts
Blushing bee

mrsnyctola :  Good point.  I think Ivy League material types can all make it into the upper middle class.  That highest echelon of society is, however, out of reach for most, no matter how hard they work or how academically gifted they are. 

Post # 79
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295 posts
Helper bee

styjen :  OK. well. I agree with your saying Obama is not some scrappy child from the ghetto. He had a well to do family with everything they need to give a strong start for him. Also in the 1980s, if you are a qualified black man you will get in, with a full scholarship if you have need of it. He was born at just the time, the stars aligned for him. However I can not say anything regarding it since he went farther on less than me. I do say the American dream is still real. My parents had their American dream be true, and they both get offended when people say “its dead.” I accept your saying they do not get into the elite elite. That is true as well.   — SO FAR! 4 of 5 their chldren go to Harvard, so who knows whether one will be President some day. 

Post # 80
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166 posts
Blushing bee

mrsnyctola :  I actually agree with everything you said.

Post # 81
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295 posts
Helper bee

styjen :  Ok I’m glad, its nice. Now be nice to everyone 🙂 

Post # 82
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9694 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Innerdonught :  You called it. speaking of obsessed, she sure seems to claim to know a lot about me for someone who has only been here for 2 months.

It’s almost as if she were here during the election under a different name, rooting for a certain someone by being exactly this argumentative, nasty, and unable to debate a single topic honestly. 

 

Sansa85 :  it’s so obnoxious for obvious reasons, and such a b.s. defense. Her defense for misrepresenting his background to dismiss his accomplishments is that he’s my  *messiah*- cuz yeah that makes sense/not.  

she left out that Obama’s father was reportedly asked to leave Harvard and did not finish his Phd. The privilege.🤔

 

 

 

Post # 83
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m usually pretty chill and supportive in my posts, and I try to always take the OP’s side, because you never know unless you’re in someone’s shoes, and emotions are complicated and can be hard to control. So while I completely understand that you’re feeling jealous and left out, because your sister was accepted into three Ivy League universities and you weren’t – you can’t hold it against her.

She’s over the moon, probably a little in shock, and excited about her future. Don’t rain on her parade. It’s hard to tell from your post and updates if she’s saying these little jokes to get at you because you don’t seem supportive, or if it’s the other way around. But you can’t honestly expect her to give up on those Ivy Leagues to go to ASU with you. That’s asking a heck of a lot, and even if she had agreed, you would have risked her resenting you for the rest of her life, always wondering what if…

So, yes, jealousy is a normal human emotion that is hard to control. However, how you respond to that emotion is what will decide your future relationship with your sister. Don’t lose her because you’re jealous. Instead, try to find things to be happy about in your own situation. Do you enjoy ASU? Are you excited about your future there? Then think about that. If not, work to make a change in your own situation.

Post # 84
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166 posts
Blushing bee

 

BalletParker :  No, I’ve been reading this site since last August, so I saw your posts.  I didn’t join until I got engaged, though. Btw,  I voted for Hillary.  I just didn’t drink the koolaid.  They both sucked and you are obsessed.

How else do you explain turning a girl’s post about her jealousy toward’s her sister’s Ivy League school acceptance into a thread about the wonders of Obama?  What the hell does Obama and his, according to you, “humble background” have to do with her post?

Post # 85
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

styjen :  you are no longer relating to the OP with your comments or helping anyone. At all.

So for the sake of OP and others, can you please stop? 

Unless OP comes back and says you’re super helpful …. OP?

Post # 86
Member
166 posts
Blushing bee

nifer317 :  Actually, I was one of the only people relating to the OP.  She got on stating how she had dreamed of going to the Ivy League, but didn’t get accepted.  Her younger sister did and is gloating about it.  OP, in turn, tells her sister she should go to college with her at ASU.  OP is jealous and she knows it.  The reason she posted is being she feels bad.

Instead of telling her to cheer up, that this is a natural emotion, one poster (innerdonout)  got on and told her how awful she is to feel jealous.  Apparently, innerdonought is above jealousy.  

When I got on, I wanted to make the OP feel better because it is my genuine belief and experience that the Ivy League isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.  I truly do not think it matters down the road of success.  Maybe the OP’s sister won the battle, but she didn’t win the war.  More importantly, it’s really hard not to feel jealousy when you’re around the top elite as her sister will soon be.  Her sister will most likely be taken back down to earth and stop gloating.

Instead of ignoring my comment if they disagreed, other posters got on and basically said that the OP’s sister, now that she’s at the Ivy League, is on her way to being the US President  if only she studies hard.  That’s really practical and an excellent way to make the OP feel better, Ladies.  

Post # 87
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2316 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

This thread has has strayed away from the OP’s question and flags are coming in – I am closing it for review.

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