Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
I’m working on putting together cost estimates and catering for all the venues I’m interested in holding our wedding at, and the one venue that I would really like to host our reception (location, convenience, NO facility fee – just food and beverage fee, would hold our guests, etc., already has a liquor license, and all things that serving food and beverages entails – IE we rent nothing, and pay a linen fee for our chosen color of linens like $50). They sent me an appetizer menu yesterday (they don’t quite have their meal menu put together yet – new chef, new menu), and I’m just not excited.
There was another caterer in town who had so many options, it was hard to just choose 10 – let alone 5! In cases like this, where everything else fits, do you think it would be ok to go back to the drawing board with the place and see if they can revise the choices somewhat? My guy can’t eat shellfish and won’t eat salmon – which are on this menu 4 times, I’m pretty sure the SW Eggrolls and Swedish meatballs are purchased by the bag, and not made in house, and I can’t really get too excited about veggie, fruit, and cheese and cracker trays (that I kind of think they will purchase from Costco since they are labeled market price).
They used to have such a great appetizer menu, I’m confused if it left with the chef who just passed away, or what? I did ask if the hot onion dip is no longer an option. In theory, these things would be just FINE, but aren’t “wow, I can’t wait to have another Fried green bean!”
Still waiting on the dinner menu… but I kind of had my mind set on an afternoon garden wedding, with everyone heading down the hill to our reception hall and just doing cake, champagne, and appetizers.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Do they allow outside caterers? If so I’d choose a place with food you already love to cater. If not then ask what your options are as far as customizing the menu, have a tasting and go from there. Food is really important to us so in your case I’d look elsewhere for a venue if the options didn’t excite me but it depends on how high a priority food is for your wedding.
Post # 3
I’d discuss the menu with them. Did they explicitly state that they’re not flexible on it? Since they have a new chef and they said they’re still building out the menu, they might a) not be quite finished with the appetizers either and b) might appreciate the feedback and input.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
I don’t like the fixed menu at ours so they agreed to make a custom one, definitely ask if thats an option.
Post # 5
Given it sounds like your Fiance is allergic to something heavily featured in the sample menu they provided (at least for apps), I think it’s reasonable to discuss other options with them. Either them modifying the menu, or allowing you to use an outside caterer.
Post # 6
While my venue had a fixed menu, they also said if we had something specific, they could try and accommodate us. I would assume this is new and unexpected (if the chef suddenly passed away) and make a list of items you would like for them to try and make.
Post # 7
definitely doesn’t hurt to ask about other options. explain that you have guests – including your Fiance, who is half of the most important people considered – who have shellfish allergies, and so you’d like an entirely shellfish-free menu. the worst they can do is say “no, the menu is totally fixed and can’t be changed.” but best case scenario, they can create an exciting, delicious menu for you.
fwiw, my Fiance is celiac (so can’t eat gluten) and has a shellfish allergy. our caterer is doing an entirely gluten- and shellfish-free menu, because i feel strongly that the one day he shouldn’t have to worry about what he’s eating is at our wedding. so i would find a caterer that is willing to cater to you and your FI’s preferences.