Post # 1
Please help. I got engaged to an amazing man on Valentines and we went to pick the ring together (after it transpired that if he had picked the ring it might have been rather interesting!!) He is still a PhD student whilst I have been earning for a while and because of that we were limited with our budget. Now admittedly we got a real sparkler, excellent cut and colour D with clarity VVSI but the carat size is 0.34. I can’t help sometimes (well almost a lot of the time) being obsessed about the size although thinking that I would have loved a bigger ring. i know that he has done the best he can at the moment. Am I being unreasonable and princessy and materialistic? Also call me vain but when people see it they say its exquisite (? code word for cute and tiny) or a rather demure “its nice” rather than the “WOW” factor and that is also getting to me. PLease help because I am now torn between a fabulous diamond vrs the size issue ………
Post # 3
It IS a fabulous diamond, and it looks great on your hand! I love the prongs — I have a 4-prong round solitaire, too, and I like the way yours are pointed. 🙂
You got a quality diamond to match your quality relationship. Rather than get something you couldn’t afford, and rather than get a diamond with poor quality, you opted for high quality diamond that didn’t interfere with your future by putting a huge burden on your financial situation. If you ask me, that just shows that you have a quality relationship, and that is worth WAY more than having a big diamond right now.
In a few years, or whenever you’re ready, you guys can perhaps go out and get an upgrade? Maybe you can find a diamond that makes you feel the WOW factor, but at that point you’ll still have your stable quality relationship! It seems like if you went with the bigger diamond now, it would betray the stability of the relationship in some ways. Just my two cents
We all kinda get ring envy I think, it’s normal. That said, you’ve got a great ring and I really like it! Congrats!
Post # 4
Don’t feel bad about having mixed feelings about your ring. There is a huge social pressure to supersize everything these days. I think your ring is beautiful. It is classic and timeless and fantastic quality. It may be smaller than some of your friends rings, but the most likely have sacrificed on colour and clarity for carat. So their 1 carat rock might be bigger, but yours can still blind people from the other side of the room!
If it is really bothering you later down the track you could upgrade to a larger diamond, or maybe a different setting with side stones or a halo. Or perhaps get blingy wedding bands for either side.
Either way, don’t feel bad. The real prize is the man you love, asking you to spend the rest of your life with him. The ring is just a bonus really.
Post # 5
I think at some point most women feel this way. I had the same issue but mine is a family heirloom so he didn’t have a choice int he size. He says he would’ve love to have given me a much bigger one.
Maybe if you look at your ring and think “delicate” instead of “small” this may help. Sounds corny but it helps. Getting a wedding band that outshines e-ring might help but it may take away from it too. I think your ring is so pretty just the way it is and stands against your skin beautifully.
This is my set and my e-ring stone is .43 ct but everyone says it looks much bigger due to my band since it doesn’t overpower my deliciate little e-ring. I have to say I’m now extremely happy with what I have. [attachment=815812,102947]
Post # 6
I think your ring is beautiful! I had some doubts about my ring after a friend got a much larger one a couple months later. I had to remind myself how excited I was when I first got it and remember looking at it and thinking it was larger than I thought we would be able to afford. Then I also think in 5 years I will still love my ring and the size will no longer be the most important thing to me.
Post # 7
I love the setting but who cares what other people think. You both picked it out together and you got a good quality diamond. As long as you love it that’s what matters.
My Fiance and I decided that I wouldn’t get an engagement ring – financial reasons and all that. We’re paying for our wedding ourselves and are putting the money that we would have spent on the diamond towards the reception costs. We have picked out a beautiful wedding band with diamonds all the way around and I’m happy with that. We’ve talked about maybe for our 5 or 10 year anniversary picking out a diamond that we can afford that will match the wedding band.
So….maybe that’s what you can look forward to – pick out a wedding band that you love, has some bling and will go with your engagement ring and 5 or 10 years down the road see if a jeweler can add some diamond around your engagement ring – although, like I said I think it’s beautiful as is.
Post # 8
My stone is also tiny, but, like notasaint, it’s an heirloom. Is upgrading to a bigger stone at a later aniversary an option for you?
Post # 9
Oh thanks all this has been a God-sent website coz I was tearing my hair out and starting to annoy my bestfriend and my mum who were all starting to make me sound ungrateful. xx
Weirdly enough I love my Fiance too much to try and nag about this anytime soon. He has said that when he is more financially secure he will get a bigger rock. Its wierd though because that also makes me feel so spoilt and ungrateful that I am not as grateful as I should be. Dilemma Dilemma
Post # 10
PS Notasaint, your ring is lovely and the band makes it more beautiful.
Post # 12
i think it looks great! and its really not about the size of the stone, its the man who gave it to you.
if nothing else, give it a couple years and if you still want an upgrade, perhaps you will be in a better financial position to do so. or like one of the bees said before, you can get a more intricate wedding band to offset the ring.
ring envy is common though, dont let it get you down! 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it’s beautiful – but don’t feel bad about wanting something bigger, ’cause a lot of women do. My advice would be to wait a while and maybe talk to your fiance about upgrading in a few years for an anniversary gift or something!
I also love the suggestion of getting a sparkly band – that would help a lot!
Post # 14
I think your stone looks great in the setting; very beautiful quality as well. I think the other posters have great ideas regarding bands. Maybe you could do stackable rings to emphasize the prettiness of your e-ring? Either way, I think it looks lovely!
Post # 15
I far prefer my small pretty diamond to a larger, less flashy one. Enjoy looking at the sparkles and you won’t mind the size. Add and sparkly band like notasaint and you’ll be set!
Post # 16
I think your ring looks pretty big! The delicate band really makes the stone pop. And it’s gorgeous!