Im not sure if I am a good match for this wedding party

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Am I a good match for this wedding party?
    No, shes asking too much : (149 votes)
    99 %
    No, but shes not asking too much, you just don't have the resources : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Yes, you should try to make it work : (0 votes)
    Yes, just do what she wants : (0 votes)
  • Post # 16
    Member
    4811 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    I wouldn’t even meet with her. Tell her you can’t make any guarantees and that you’re sorry but you can’t be in her wedding party but would love to come as a guest. That’s it.

    Post # 17
    Member
    323 posts
    Helper bee

    Sounds like a nightmare even if a baby weren’t in the picture. I would be out so fast! Ain’t nobody got time for that!

    Post # 18
    Member
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    A 5 day bachelorette cruise?!? Hahahahaaaaa, GTFO.

    Carpe Diem, seize the day to get out of being in this wedding party for this ridiculously spoiled person.

    Side note: I like that we call it a ‘Hen’s Night’ here… ‘Hen’s NIGHT’, not ‘Hen’s order friends to spend all thier money and vacation days because an entitled bride wants to feel speshul’. 

    This woman is going to be a treat if she ever gets pregnant.

    Post # 19
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    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    WHAT!? This whole story got me so effing mad. I would say no to everything – she’s not a close friend, actually, she’s shown herself to be a selfish, shitty friend. You are within your right to say no to all of this madness.

    5 day bachelorette. Good lord. Whatever happened to a spot of dinner and maybe a cheeky stripper? Geez what has this industry become.

    Post # 20
    Member
    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    don’t sign up for this nonsense bee. your baby, education and are more important than just planning the whole bachelorette, engagement, bridal shower and the wedding for her (okay, this sounds like she’s having a vacation, not a wedding). it certainly does not worth your time and energy, especially when she don’t understand your condition and persisted that you should work out everything as she wish.

    Post # 21
    Member
    733 posts
    Busy bee

    Wow. This girl is the definition of a bridezilla.

    If you want to continue a relationship with her: “I love you, I am so happy for you and (her FI), but I am not in a place right now where I can give my all to being a bridesmaid in your wedding. I can’t wait to attend as a guest and celebrate with you.”

    Otherwise, just tell her what an unreasonable wench she’s being and move on. 

    Post # 22
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    3443 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    She is being ridiculous. Escape from this nightmare while you still can. She does not care about you or what you have going on in your life AT ALL. You are a prop with a wallet to her.

    Post # 23
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    3833 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    It’s one of the most unanimous polls I’ve ever seen! She is going full steam ahead to bridezilla territory, get out while you can. A 5 day cruise, and the week before Christmas no less??? I can practically guarantee that the stress and cost of this is going to spiral out of control. 

    Post # 24
    Member
    768 posts
    Busy bee

    I have honestly never heard anything like it.. Run away Bee… Save yourself!

    Post # 25
    Member
    1960 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Bridezilla much. Run

    Post # 26
    Member
    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    Seriously no need for the meet. She is behaving like an awful human. You have been given an easy out – take it !! 

    Who does she think she is?! I would tell her thanks but no thanks and never bother her again. 

    Awful x

    Post # 27
    Member
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    she’s absolutely disrespectful and asking too much from you! consider it once again, it’s still not too late to back down

    Post # 28
    Member
    841 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    Holy smokes! Yeah, I would decline & peace out. This will be beyond crazy stressful and nobody needs that, regardless if you’re having a baby or not. 

    It is amazing to me that people really expect this kind of a commitment, both time & money! While I don’t think bridesmaids are only obligated to show up day of, this is excessive. It seems to be more stressful than it’s worth, but to each their own! 

    Post # 29
    Member
    1930 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    As soon as she said this, “You have to do more than just show up at the altar.”  I would have said, “Then, no, I cannot be your bridesmaid. Our ideas of what a bridesmaid is and what they should be responsible for differ. I’m sorry I cannot fulfill this role for you. Congratulations again to you on your engagement.”

    Post # 30
    Member
    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    oh hell no. Get out. NOW.

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