Im not sure if I am a good match for this wedding party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Am I a good match for this wedding party?

    No, shes asking too much

    No, but shes not asking too much, you just don't have the resources

    Yes, you should try to make it work

    Yes, just do what she wants

  • Post # 46
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    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    Um.

     

    Yikes. 

     

    I’d remove myself from the bridal party and seriously consider the friendship… 

    Post # 47
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    4033 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

    OP, your “friend” is gross. Her “you can’t just show up at the altar” comment is disgusting… in fact, that is your ONLY obligation here. I would have backed out after that statement. The fact is, you just simply cant commit to the absurd things shes asking you to commit to. You have NO idea what having a new baby will be like and she sounds like the kind that will not take it graciously if you have to bow out of something because your kid hasn’t slept in 3 days… There is no reason to tie yourself and your family in knots to try to accommodate a woman who very clearly doesn’t give a rats ass what is going on in your life and what she’s asking you to do. I’d drop her and this wedding like a hot potato!

    Post # 48
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    65 posts
    Worker bee

    What in the fuckery is this? Even if the bride was covering the cost of the cruise, what guarantee is there that everyone will be able to take 5 vacation days for it? Surely she must see that this is an insane thing to demand of someone?

    I have no words other than – that bitch has lost her marbles. Run like the wind while you still can. 

    Post # 49
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee

    She needs a reality check. Maybe a family member or her maid of honor can step in here? In the meantime, you should tell her you have to bow out of her bridal party because of the reasons you listed. I also don’t understand why people pick bridal parties two years out (two years of forced servitude?). And a cruise for a bachlorette and a 3 day engagement party? Weddings are really getting out of hand. 

    Post # 50
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    6952 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I don’t understand why this is even a question. You should have long since told this bitch to kiss your entire ass. She’s not even that good a friend and you’re feeling pressured to participate in her shenanigans?! Absolutely not. 

    “Your expectations for your bridesmaids do not align with what I’m prepared to give to support your wedding. Have fun and good luck!”

    Post # 51
    Member
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    Whaaaaat is she a celebrity, why is she demanding so much attention? So much LOLing going on over here!

    Post # 52
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    9806 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    She’s ridiculous.  Why are you even friends with her?  Be thankful you have your baby you can use as an easy excuse to get out.  Run!!!

    Post # 54
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    3317 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

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    mtb055 : 

    Yay!! I’m glad to hear you didn’t let yourself get bullied or guilted into such ridiculous nonsense. I hope she learns from this and realizes that people have lives outside their relation to her.

    Post # 55
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    1217 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

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    mtb055 :  Good job. 

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