(Closed) I'm not sure what kind of wedding we should have!

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Hotfiance24:  It all depends on what you want. I looked into everything. Traditional wedding with tent in backyard or reception ( expensive). Destination Wedding, too complicated.

SO I ended up choosing to elope/honeymoon then having a casual bbq type party later. It ended up being cheper that way and less stress. I quickly became disenchanted with the details and planning. But dont let that stop you, I’m older and just not into it.

I would either elope then have a casual party, or just the VFW thing. The Vegas option is fun, but might get complicated and pricey. But it’s your day! There are so many options ~

Post # 5
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m in the same boat due to a number of reasons and now I think we’re just overwhelmed with options!

Post # 6
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had endless options.  We had our wedding “idea” in three different countries and five different states!  I was so bogged down with trying to find the most awesomest prettiest place when my lovely H reminded me, “90% of it is just the awesomeness of us getting married, the other 10% are just details (like where, etc).”  He was right.  Many options would have worked.


Figure out what represents you two the most.  Come up with a list of priorities (ours were intimate, represents us, spectacular views).  Do you really want to be doing all these extra details and several parites with a baby to care for? 

Post # 7
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hotfiance24:  I am honestly not a fan of vegas weddings, so I vote no on that. I would do the Colorado wedding, but have you thought about something like the vegas wedding where you could have friends and family, too? Maybe a semi-destination wedding.

Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR & Eloped to a Destination Wedding (just the two of us saying our Vows on The Beach) then followed it up with a Caribbean Cruise Honeymoon

A couple of weeks after getting home, we threw a Back Home Reception for friends & family.

As Encores (and over 50 & 60) this all worked out for us perfectly.

We thought about other ideas when we got engaged…

But we knew we didn’t want a HUGE Wedding (both having had those before).  We contemplated a back-yard intimate affair… or a surprise party at a Hotel Ballroom (getting folks there under false pretences… and then getting married)

In the end, I couldn’t be happier for what we did choose to do.

For us as Encores, we decided to focus on our Marriage… so having a JUST US Wedding made taking our Vows even that more special / meaningful

Looking back, for us, we did the right thing.  I wouldn’t have wished it any other way

(lol, altho if money had been no object… won the lottery… I might have thrown an even bigger kick-ass after party than we did.  Would have been nice to be able to have a mega wedding like reception vs just a small cocktail party)

Hope this helps,


PS… Our choice wasn’t cheap by any means… altho we chose to go very low key.  Just the Wedding Ceremony expenses for our Beach Elopement came in around $ 1500 (License – Officiant – Location – Photographer for 30 Minutes – Bouquet & Bout – Dress – Accessories – Jewellery – Hair & Makeup – Mr TTRs outfit – and a Bottle of Champagne).

This total didn’t include any of our Rings… or the Wedding Gifts that we bought for each other (watches).

And on top of the Ceremony, of course as it was a Destination, we also had our Honeymoon Suite ($ 500 a night), a couple of nights worth of Drinks & Meals (including a special restaurant for our Wedding Night) and some misc stuff like taxi cabs.

So Eloping isn’t necessary cheap… more so if you also add on a Honeymoon of any substance.

BUT I can tell you it was sooo worth it.  We both L♥VED every second of it !!


Post # 9
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


I guess I should let you know about our Back Home Reception Party as you are looking that as an option as well.

We did a somewhat casual Evening Party… Cocktails & Hors d’Ouevres – Cake & Champagne – DJ & Dancing

Including all the required elements… Room Rental, Drinks, Bartending, Catering, Serving, Wedding Cake, DJ, and Decor

Our Total Reception cost aprox $ 75 per person.

If we had gone more Wedding-like… with a sitdown meal etc we would have no doubt spent a lot more (probably more like $ 150 to $ 200 per person)

(NOTE – As we are Canadian, and Booze here is uber expensive… and Open Bars not the norm by any means…  we provided our Guests with a Complimentary First Drink of their choice – as well as unlimited Water, Pop, Juice, Tea, Coffee and Champagne thru out the evening… a great many people took advantage of the FREE bubbly).

Hope this helps,

Other things… We took entended holiday for our Wedding away.  In total we were gone 5 weeks on a Pre-Wedding & Honeymoon Extravaganza… that saw us travel to / thru… 1 Province – 14 States – and 8 Countries.  It was truly amazing !!  A trip of a lifetime for sure.

So overall if they say that couples spend on average $ 25 K on getting married, I’d have to be in that camp / ballpark … just that as Encores we chose to split up our expenses in different ways than the norm, choosing to spend the bulk of the money on ourselves and the aspects of our Wedding that would make the most memories for us.. (Rings, Watches, Ceremony, Photographs, Honeymoon Trip) vs a BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding, which both of us had done before.


Post # 10
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CaymanGirl:  i love the idea of a bbq / potluck type of party after the elopement….. i have heard people say (as guests) that they would feel much more relaxed and have more fun.  plus the bride will be more relaxed…. that’s the key!!!

of your three options, i would elope to colorado…. sounds absolutely romantic!!!!  but then combine the ending of option one….come home and have a reception for family…..

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