Post # 1

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Sugar bee
Last night I was complaining about my crazy, poofy, frizzy hair (a usual occurence in our household) when all of a sudden a light bulb when on in my FI’s head. This is the conversation that followed:
Fiance: “OMG, are you going to straighten your hair for our photos on Sunday?”
Me: *blank stare* “Uhhhh yea!”
Fiance: “I’m not taking pictures with you then.”
Me: “What???”
Fiance: “I don’t like the way your hair looks when it’s straightened. I like it natural. I’m not taking pictures with you if you wear your hair like that.”
What would you do ladies? Wear your hair the way you know will look good in photos? Or have crazy frizz head because that’s what your Fiance likes?
Post # 3

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Buzzing bee
@TinyTina: I couldnt help but laugh …I would tell my FI/SO to build a bridge and get over it – do your hair how you like ๐
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
Can you compromise? My hair used to (I have no idea why it changed) by wavy and I could make pretty wavy hairstyles or straighten it. Can you make a pretty wavy hairstyle? Or straight with more volume? Or curl it?
Post # 5

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Busy bee
I’d wear my hair the way I like it and know it will look good. If I wasn’t happy with my hair or how I looked I think that would show in pictures. How often do you straighten your hair? What doesn’t he like about it?
Or maybe this is actually about something else other than your hair.
Post # 6

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Sugar bee
@CanadianMermaid: It was such a random convo, I was laughing the whole time. I couldn’t believe how serious he was about how he wanted my hair!
@kingytobe: I can try, but I’m really bad at styling my hair. I usually either attack it with a hair straightener or wear it in a ponytail. Maybe I will do some experimenting after work tonight…
Post # 7

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Sugar bee
@sparkle: If I wasn’t happy with my hair or how I looked I think that would show in pictures.
This! I love the way my hair looks when it’s straightened and I think I’d be nervous/constantly playing with it if I did it any other way. I’d say I straighten my hair once or twice a week and always for special occasions (a nice dinner, a wedding, etc). He doesn’t like the straight look, he likes the wavy, natural look that to me looks like a pile of frizz. ๐
Post # 8

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Bumble Beekeeper
Ahh guys are so crazy! Can we see pics of your hair normal and straightened? Maybe it looks good normal but you are just self conscious??
Post # 9

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Blushing bee
You may think it looks bad but your SO loves everything about you. He may want you to look the way you do all the time for the pics because he loves seeing you like that. Not all done up trying to conform to the idea of what looks good. Just do you. He loves you.
My Fiance feels the same way, he preferes me in my baggy jeans a t-shirt and my hair all in a mess thrown back in a pony tail. He has expressed his feelings about me wearing lots of makeup on the big day and I have told him I wont be. I never wear makeup I find it uncomfortable. The most Ill be wearing is eye shadow and mascara.
However, you also have to feel comfortable. So if you would feel better having your hair straightened then let him know that and he will understand.
Tip for frizzy hair, as I have major frizz, frizzease is awesome.
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Post # 10

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Sugar bee
@PitBulLover: I could post some pics when I get home… Unfortunately I don’t have access to any photos at work. The only ones I’ve posted on WB are me with straight hair, so here’s one:
Post # 11

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Sugar bee
@Cicera: I think almost every hair product I own is frizzease… Love that stuff!!
Post # 12

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Bumble Beekeeper
@TinyTina: I like your hair straight! But now Im really curious to see it natural. I will be patient and wait until later! ๐
Post # 13

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Honey bee
Maybe you could compromise by going to a stylist that day and having her do your hair so that it is wavy/curly but not frizzy?
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
you can use your staightener to curl your hair too (youtube it if you’re not familiar)… what if you do that? then you’d be able to defrizz for you, but have it not be “straight” for him. (oh and your FH looks a lot like my brother… weird!)
Post # 15

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Helper bee
Haha, it is quite funny that he feels so intense about it. I think your hair looks beautiful straight! My Fiance also likes my hair curly but I prefer it straight so that is how I wear it all the time. Although he likes it curly, he is fine with me wearing my hair which ever way I like. Perhaps your Fiance just wants things to be all natural. You should post a pic of your hair frizzy.
Post # 16

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Sugar bee
I’m bumping this to include pics of my frizzy hair!
