(Closed) I'm not the MOH!!!! new-bee asking for advice

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yikes, sounds like a crazy situation to be in. She seems like she’d be really hard to get away from, and it’s really weird that she is already telling everyone that you are her Maid/Matron of Honor. I would try telling her that you have other obligations and are glad that she wants you to be her Maid/Matron of Honor but that you just can’t.

If that doesn’t work, I would just ignore her calls/texts/emails any kind of contact at all.

Post # 4
1330 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t understand-that’s crazy! I mean, that poor (albeit lunatic-sounding) girl left in tears and you still get a save the date. I honestly think you have been quite firm with her and I would politely decline any wedding invite or save the date. it sounds like she is lonely. 🙁

Post # 5
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

This really sucks, personaly if she kept coming I would tell her you were leaving the country during the entire month of November.  It’s mean to lie but theres not much else you can do.  Good luck and I hope crazy stays away.


Post # 6
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just stop responding to her. Check with your cell carrier about having her number blocked if they can do that. Sounds a bit odd to say the least. The other option is to contact her Mom again and explain that you and she are not friends and that perhaps she should get her daughter some help. Then cut all methods of contact with her.

Post # 7
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow!  If she contacts you again I would contact her mom and have a conversation with her.   That is just so weird and kind of creepy to me.

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would stop responding at all. It’s good that you are being firm and not caving, but I think any encouragement in the form of any kind would not be beneficial to either of you. The people who actually have relationships with her can deal with the fallout of that if she’s emotionally unstable. (For example, her mom.)

If it were me I wouldn’t change my number, but I definitely wouldn’t accept any more calls. I’d label her number as “do not answer” in my contacts. 🙂

Post # 9
52 posts
Worker bee

The word ‘Stalker’ comes to mind here. I would cease all contact with her – PERIOD. Also perhaps CALL her mother if you can, and tell her that you have not even really spoken to this girl in years, much less agreed to be a part of her wedding. WOW.

Post # 10
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I alternated between “poor you” and “poor her” .

Poor you because obviously the girl is cray cray.  And slightly stalker ish.

And poor her since she apparently has no friends. And sounds kinda sad and lonely.

She gets points or presistance though. Dayum.

Post # 11
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m one of those people who is compassionate 90% of the time….but then there are those very specific situations that no matter what I just can’t contain myself and my immeadite reaction is to do what I call “Snap n’ Slap”.

This girl’s whiny baby voice + me = SNAP N’ SLAPPPPP! (emphasis on slap)

Seriously. Snap n’ Slap until she leaves you alone.


Post # 12
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow!  Yes this girl is absolutely crazy.  Your Maid/Matron of Honor should definitely be someone that you are close to.  Definitely not someone you haven’t spoken to in years.  Let’s hope her mom is a little more grounded and can give her a reality check.  Good luck!

Post # 13
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That girl is….not well.

If she keep this up contact her mother and explain the situation.

Do NOT talk to her/take her calls/reply to her emails etc.

Post # 14
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow! The situation you are sounds a bit creepy. You should feel a little bit sorry for the girl as she probably doesnt have any friends which is why she came to you. But I suggest maybe letting her monther know nicely that you are not able to take on the job of Maid/Matron of Honor for this girl and see what happens

Post # 15
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yeesh!  It sounds like this girl is incredibly lonely.  I second trying to contact her mother if she won’t leave you alone.

Post # 16
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Good Lord, this girl needs help.  Cut all communication with her now.

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