Post # 1

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Wannabee
OK so i haven’t purchased this dress yet, but i ADORE it. Its so vintage looking, like someone has passed it down to me. I’m getting married in a 100 y/o church and having my reception aboard the Queen Mary in long beach. The dress is light gold with an ivory lace overlay. GORGEOUS!!!! My future mother-in-law was not too happy that the dress wasn’t ivory all over…. i get it, white/ivory and the whole purity/virginity thing. But the dress looks awesome on me and its 2011, not 1911…. anyone have similar issues? Can i get some validation?? hahahaha
Post # 3

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Bee Keeper
who cares what Future Mother-In-Law thinks, your dress sounds fabulous! any pics??
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
I invited my Future Mother-In-Law to go dress shopping, but not because I cared what she thought… I invited her because she has 3 sons and I wanted her to get to experience the stuff a mother with only sons won’t ever get to do.
I would not have cared if she liked or didn’t like the color of the dress I chose.
The light gold/ivory lace combo can be very beautiful and if it looks good on you, and you feel good in it, then all the better!
You shouldn’t let what anybody says about any of your wedding related decisions bother you.
Post # 5

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Bee Keeper
It sounds gorgeous! I second the request for pics! I just wouldn’t worry about what she thinks, there will be plenty of other larger battles ahead 🙂
Post # 6

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Helper bee
PICS!! I am wanting the same type of dress! Vintage-y gold color with a ivory lace! You should indeed get the dress of your dreams! Even if it was black!
Post # 8

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Busy Beekeeper
@ValerieE: Are you a virgin? ^_^
Wear what makes you happy. My Future Mother-In-Law is not happy about my short dress but whatever. Hopefully the only time I ever have to see her is the wedding.
Post # 9

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Helper bee
it sound gorgeous. Pics?! sounds like you will still look bridal, if not virginal 🙂
Post # 10

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Busy bee
Unless your Future Mother-In-Law is paying for the dress, I don’t think she has a say in what you wear!
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
OMG tell her to go somewhere!! (not in those words haha).
Im sick of these parents and their insistence on every little detail. As long as she gets to invite most of that people she wants, what’s the problem? Wear the dress you want. You are the one that’s gonna look at your wedding pics 10 years from now and feel salty about it. She will get over it (especially when/if grandkids come), you will NOT get over it.
Post # 12

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Busy bee
@ValerieE: Actually, in 1911 your dress would be more in style than a white one, probably. 😉
Post # 13

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Worker bee
its not her wedding now, is it?
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
Go with what YOU want. What I’ve learned with my Future Mother-In-Law is that she is never going to be 100% happy unless everything goes her way, but I’m not willing to give in and let her run my life. Be nice and respectful, but lead YOUR life and make YOUR decisions. Your dress sounds awesome!
Post # 15

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Blushing bee
I thought you were going to say you were wearing a red, blue or purple dress, or something to that effect. Gold and ivory is still totally bridal – she doesn’t have a leg to standon on this issue!
Post # 16

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Bee Keeper
I think it sounds beautiful. Tell her she can wear white.