(Closed) I'm only impatient now that he bought the ring?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

YES, THIS. I’m in the exact same situation now and it’s driving me nuts lol.

We had started serious marriage talk back in January and even picked out a ring, but he didn’t buy it so I was totally chill about it all for nearly 7 months because I felt the same way as you said – that if it happened a month from then or a year, great! Not gonna go crazy over something I’m not sure is coming soon, right? BUT then he accidentally revealed to me that he had bought the ring and I saw it and he’s planning on proposing sometime in the fall and now I’m losing my mind over the waiting. It’s only been like 2 weeks since I found out he has the ring and I got to see it but it feels like an ETERNITY.

We can get through this. Hang in there, OP! πŸ™„

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Same thing happened to me. The jeweler accidentally called me instead of him to let us know the ring was done because we got it custom, and I thought I was going to explode. THEN DH waited almost TWO MONTHS!!! I could have strangled him, but it will be perfect whenever he does it and you will not have wanted it any other way. πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Yes!

He got the ring last weekend! And now I just have to wait for it.

Worse of all, he deleted all my photos of the ring and now I have nothing to look at!! He said he wants it to be like the first time I saw the ring. That very exciting feeling.

And worse of all, we are in agreement that the proposal will only be next year (that was before we got the ring)!! It’s approx 5 months away to January and he might even delay a few months after that. 

ARGHHH! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I can relate! My SO told me he’d propose before Thanksgiving of this year. He knows my favorite season is summer and now that’s slipping away. I think he might be waiting for September when we go on a small weekend trip, but who knows? I glimpsed a bag from the jewelry store I picked out rings at in his desk drawer when his friends were here last week, but when I went back to snoop it was gone. Did he move it? Did I imagine it? Was it just an empty bag? Who knows! It does drive me alightlybcrazy at times! πŸ˜‰

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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@ annann91   Holy crap, NEXT YEAR? I think I’d die from the anxiety of waiting that long knowing that he has the ring lol! I’m having wedding fever dreams just knowing a proposal is coming next season once the summer ends. You must have the patience of a saint πŸ™ŒπŸ» (Or if not, good luck and hang in there! 😝)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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@ LittleRedBug   Haha! I know right?? Well, I’m trying to look at the bright side of having about half a year to lose weight to look good for the proposal and a chance to save more money for the wedding.

But 5 months or more is just WAY TOO LONG! Lol. 

I am trying to be as patient as I can. 3 days and so far so good. HAHA innocent

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I’m in the same boat! We went ring shopping in Feb, from my master spy skills (and he dropped clues) the ring was ready late March- i’m going crazy! What’s worse is that I dissect every weekend plan… I suspect he’s gonna do it every weekend but secretly don’t think he’ll do it til Sept since our schedules are so hectic. If I were him that ring would be burning a hole in my pocket…

why are guys so nonchalant about keeping the ring for so long?!?! Like are you not excited for forever to start sooner rather than later? Lol

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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@ hazeleyesbride   In March?? It’s almost 6 months!! How did you stay sane?? Lol

Post # 10
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Worker bee

 

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@ annann91   I’m dying inside and driving myself crazy- then I second and triple guess my ring choice but I think it’s bc I have nothing else to do but lust over every Instagram ring/jeweler post

 

seriously so annoying to wait so long 

Post # 11
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Newbee

Im with all of you on this one. He had been looking at rings since June and bought one last week! I’m pretty sure I know what one but it’s killing me! I think he may wait for our vacation in late August but I don’t want to wait that long…yet I do want the location as it’s Yosimite. I just have no patience.  The whole thing just occupies my mind all day long! 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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@ topaztoronto   YES!! I found the appointment card for the first appointment he made with a jewler in JANUARY. He didn’t propose until Memorial day. I was dying (and to be honest, getting a little sad and bitter by the end). But once he proposed and I saw the ring and how thoughtful the proposal was and how much time and effort went into picking the ring and planning the proposal I felt so bad and kind of hated myself for wanting to rush it. It turns out he spent months making dozens of trips to jewlers looking for the right ring; then he waited went above and beyond to ask my moms permission in person (she lives 5 hours away and we dont see her often).

He loves you and you trust him– just relax and wait, and know he is doing everything he can to make it perfect!

Post # 13
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Worker bee

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@ blac12   omg I thought I was the only one with bitter feelings… Congrats on your engagement!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

He consulted me for certain decisions when designing the ring and last I heard, the first payment had been made.  That was maybe a week ago.  I’ve told him I don’t want to know when it is done or shipped.  BUT It’s been literally impossible for me to not talk about it and he is super set on not talking about marriage anything.  I barely even care about the ring itself anymore, I just want the pillow talk that comes with it!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

When Fiance first brought a future engagement and marriage, I was shocked, because I’ve always heard and read that guys are reluctant and have committment issues and the like. I was excited, but it was early on, so it didn’t make me anxious. Then when he asked my ring size, I became more excited, and anxiety started to kick in. When we actually went and looked at rings, all the sudden I was so ready for it! Anticipation is weird.

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