(Closed) I'M OVER PLANNING MY WEDDING! BMs Drama

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

Personally, I wouldn’t give in.  You’re already being incredibly generous.  They can suck it up and buy the shoes and tights.

Post # 4
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

They seem like they are being brats. SERIOULSY complaining about tights and toms??!! after EVERYTHING that your doing for them, they should all be excited that thats the only things they need to purchase! STAND YOUR GROUND!!

Post # 5
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

you have been MORE than generous!!!! they can pay for the tights and shoes, good lord some women can be brats!

Post # 6
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717 posts
Busy bee

yea you and your Fiance and parents have been beyond generous.  this i don’t understand: “my parents are paying for two of them and their husbands to go to Jamaica with us after the wedding” but anyway.  having to buy a pair of tights and casual shoes is not a big deal.  maybe they’ve gotten a little spoiled with everything you’ve done for them?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How much is the total cost of the tights and toms? I’m guessing not much. So what I would do is say “well, it is traditional for the bridesmaid to buy her own dress. So if you’d prefer to pay for the dress, I’m happy to buy your tights and shoes.”  Haha that strategy works like magic if the dress cost more than the shoes and tights. Then maybe they’ll realize they’re being boobs!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

They need to get over it.  You and your FI have paid for way more than most brides pay for for their BMs.  I’m not a huge fan of toms, but if I were your Bridesmaid or Best Man I would shut up and buy them.  I’m sure the one who doesn’t want tights will be glad you insisted on it when she realizes how cold it will be at your wedding.

Btw, this is completely off topic, but I remember an earlier post of yours with you cat shoes… where did you get them?  I am rather infatuated with them.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@shunduh:  Thanks!  I’m definitely thinking about buying them. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m going to play devil’s advocate for a moment because I’ve read your other posts.  I think you have been more than generous with your bridesmaids, but it seems that you jump around a bit in terms of ideas.  So if I was your Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would be a little concerned that Toms and tights are your idea today, but you might change tomorrow.  Just a thought.  So I would let them know that you’re absolutely set on this and it won’t change.

Post # 16
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ok i’m playing catch up, so i have no idea what your dresses look like, but what i’m picturing when you say “tights and toms” is not good lol. can you post a picture or inspiration?

granted as a bridesmaids, you kinda just wear what you’re told and smile no matter what! and they should def SHUT IT and buy whatever you ask them to. I mean, the dress alone would cost more and they didn’t have to buy that

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