Post # 1
I feel like the wedding planning stress is turning me into a monster today. I’m getting married at the end of next month, and it seems like I have a ton to do! My Fiance won’t be back home until the end of this month, so I am here by myself, trying to make decisions about this stuff. While all of the vendors are taken care of, I am trying to figure out how I want the ceremony to go, deciding on decorations, while trying not to go too crazy with money, or with extra stuff. See, we are moving 10 hours away, to michigan, a few days after we get married. It’s actually possible that the movers may come pick up our household goods before we get married, we just don’t know 100% yet. I will know all of that when my Fiance returns home in a couple of weeks.
So I’m here trying to figure out decor that won’t break the bank, picking out songs, figuring out the cereony, and I’m just over it. :- It seems like way too much to do, especially all by myself. I’ve racked my brain trying to figure out nice centerpieces that won’t create a bunch of extra stuff, because anything we have left over is just going to be extra stuff to move. Planning a wedding & a move at the same time is for the birds!
FI’s father is going to be the one officiating our ceremony, and I emailed him last weekend about ceremony ideas, which he responded to me, but still no sample ceremonies or anything.
I know I should probably just chill out and not think about wedding stuff, but I feel like I can’t. There’s a lot to do, and the more time I spend not making decisions, the farther behind I’m going to be!
Post # 3
Ugh, I feel for you! I was at that point a while back, I was piiiissed. What helped me was to list every single thing that I had to do/make a decision on/buy/figure out on a word document. Then I moved things around by priority. Some things I was able to just completely delete because I realized, I didn’t give a shit. Then I put this list into a time order like
1 Month Out: blah, blah blah
2 Weeks Out: blah, blah, blah
Week of: ____, ____, ___
Day of: ____, ____
As I do something, I change it to the “strike through” font so it’s crossed off. That way I see everything I accomplish and feel really good about it, and it also feels so much better to have my list out of my mind so it’s not banging around in there distracting me and stressing me out.
Post # 4
Aww honey! Big hugs to you! Soon you will be getting married and looking back on it with fondness. I promise. 😀
Post # 5
@LaurenKK: I should do that. I’ve printed off checklists from places like the Knot, but there are so many things on there that I’m not even doing, so the list just frustrates me.
@pengoala: I’m definitely looking forward to it all being behind me, but I hate not having decisions made 🙁
Post # 6
I can relate, and I agree about those standard timeline/to-do lists online, they are full of things I’m not doing so I made my own using theirs as an example and it is really helpful. When I’ve felt super stressed, I’ve developed a couple little coping strategies. One is asking a friend, or maid of honor for a little extra help, and another is planning little breaks, like after I spend a week or two accomplishing a few key tasks, then I take the following week off from planning altogether. Being so close to your date, I totally understand you may not be able to take a week off, but what about two or three days in a row just for a little break to clear your head? One thing you also might want to consider if you’re getting really stressed is finding a day-of, week-of, or month-of wedding coordinator. These can be surprisingly affordable, and if it helps make the day more special, calm, and joyful for you, it’s probably worth it. They take over the logistical things leading up to the day so you don’t have to be stressed rigt before your wedding, and if you ask for extra help with decision making they’re there for you and will help. Hope this is somewhat helpful! Hang in there! 🙂
Post # 7
Hang in there! There are good days and bad ! I can email you some ceremony examples if u want.
Post # 8
i feel like that to, especially now! most of the big stuff i taken care of, but it’s all the little details (like songs, timelines, etc) that need to get done and every day i think of something else.
but definitely break down your list, so it doesn’t seem as overwhelming! i wrote deadlines and other to-do’s on my calendar so i would know what i needed to get done by the end of the month/week. it definitely helped keep me sane and focused and it reassures that i AM getting stuff done. cause sometimes i feel like i haven’t done crap, lol.
Post # 9
I am glad I am not the only one!
Post # 10
I totally feel the same way! We met with a friend yesterday to talk about wedding planning, and they just made it worse! I feel like I have so much to do- songs, confirm vendors, finish DIY centerpieces, finishing buy last minute decorations…. the list goes on!! I know we’ll get through this and it will be beautiful but it’s difficult. I now understand why people hire wedding planners. 🙂
Post # 11
I was in a similar situation not too long ago, and my response was to let it all go haha. Now we find we’re not having centrepeices, or wedding-favours and I’ve let the decorator for the cake run wild. I handed it over and thats the last of it. Ultimately, no matter what we eat, or what we sit on, or how the place looks, I’ll be marrying the love of my life that day. So long as we have the marriage license and the celebrant we’re good. I’ve discovered I probably don’t make a good bride because I just don’t care about the little things.
The hardest thing is that other people care, they keep asking me about all these details that I don’t give a rats about, it’s like they WANT me to stress out!
Post # 12
@nikky.abraham: Exactly!! I have never really been the type of girl to dream about my wedding details.. and just when I’m relaxed, someone asks me about another detail i never even considered!
Post # 13
@roweboat: Argh I feel you. Some of the crap people come up with never even crossed my mind. I often just stare at them for prolonged periods trying to imagine why on earth I should care about the way my napkins are folded, least of all why THEY should care!!