(Closed) I’m overwhelmed, and need to talk. It’ll be long.

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Post # 3
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I told my FH that we need to do whatever we can to make this move as smoothly as possible. We already don’t know people where we are moving, still planning a wedding, and we have work/school to keep on track.

Sometimes, they don’t think about how much really needs to get done. This move may be hard on him and he may need time to process it all. It seems like my FH doesn’t get it at first, but later on he will get a better understanding or come to terms with what I said.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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1251 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh. Fighting sucks. But we all say things that are a little mean sometimes. Maybe if you set up a practical plan to set aside a little cash to pay movers it would help him reconcile with that idea. Like, going out to eat less, or skipping unnesscary expenses.

You should try doing yoga or going for a walk each day to let some of your tension out.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Hire movers. That’ll relieve a lot of the stress right there. And packages can cost as much as 30K… just see how much they’ll give you and plan your budget accordingly!

I know it’s stressful, but it’s not so bad. Chin up!

Post # 6
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you guys are fighting.  I really don’t think that the two of you are going to be able to do this alone.  Maybe you will have friends to help you pack up and move all your furniture where you live now but once you get there, you really can’t expect that the two of you are going to be able to pick up and move the furniture out of the truck.  Since his company says that they will reimburse, shouldn’t they pay for movers?

Post # 8
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You definitely need movers!  Even if you put a $10/hr ‘gig’ ad in Craigslist. 

Moving sucks.  We’re doing it right now, but just across town.  We’ve always had much better luck renting from a more laidback owner vs. a giant apartment complex run by a management company.  Typically individuals are much more flexible and accomodating of pets, schedules, lease terms, etc.  Maybe you could get some tips from the local AZ board? 

Best of luck. 

Post # 9
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh gosh, that is a lot of stuff.  Dealing with one issue can be taxing, dealing with them all at once can make anyone stressed to the MAX.  I’m so sorry you’re both going through so much right now.

I’d definitely hirer movers.  The last thing you want to do is be emotionally AND physically exhausted.  The money will be well spent.  A friend of mine is moving from  Brooklyn, NY to North Carolina for $3900.  $5000 isn’t really enough to cover the rest.  Since you’re breaking your lease, do you lose an extra deposit?  I’m sure his company is holding out, you can probably get a bit more. 

I wish you luck 🙂

Post # 10
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Since they are offering a set amount, I would do the research to find out how much movers, breaking the lease, and transporting the cars would cost and then take that to them and say it will cost us this much, is there anything better you can do?

Post # 11
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4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sorry, that is a lot to deal with! Have you looked into Rental Houses in your new place? Will the company maybe put you up for a week in a “extended stay” kind of place so you can house hunt?

 

Post # 13
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Right now you have the upper hand when looking for places to live, trust me.  keep plugging away and if you get crap on the phone like that other call, you did the right thing – just hang up on them and move on. Save yourself some time and it’ll help your frustration haha.

Post # 14
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hang in there! and definitely hire movers!!! Short term rental options aren’t necessarily that much more expensive than usual rental prices – it might be worth it for a couple of months. Check vrbo  – some places are for a month at a time, and there are usually reviews of owners and places. Some of them are pet friendly. Moving companies will often store your stuff for free for a month while you’re living in a furnished place and finding something more permanent. Remember to put your moving expenses that aren’t reimbursed on your taxes next year.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

O.M.G.!  Someone seriously asked you to leave your dog behind?!?  Whoever that person was more than likely has never been a pet owner and should not be allowed to talk to people.  That’s like asking if you would leave your 6-month-old kid behind.  Uh no.  If someone asked me to leave my dogs behind I’d probably have a meltdown!

I hope things go as smoothly as possible for you!!  I’ve never been in your shoes, but I’m sure it’s scary and the uncertainty can get the best of you.

Take lots of deep breaths, try to keep your cool, be open, and try to compromise when it comes to your relationship with your fiance.  That’s the most important thing to focus on when it comes to trials and tribulations like this!  Don’t let it wound your relationship!

Good luck!

Post # 16
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

WOW  I can’t believe that apartment owner said that to you!!! I’d say my dog is more important than your 4 walls :P. haha not really, but I’d think it.

try craigslist! I’m not sure what big city in AZ you’re buy, but I went to the phoenix one & there seem to be quite a few places to rent that are ok with dogs. hope that helps!

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