Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m going wedding dress shopping in 2-3 weeks and I’m freaking out. Already. I’m pretty petite — 5’1” and about 105 lbs. Obviously, my dress is going to have to be hemmed up at the least. I’m just scared that I’ll be limited in my dress choices. I’m scared to buy something with detail around the edges (in case it can’t be taken off, hemmed, then put back on) and I’m to get something with detailing/beadwork around the bottom, because I’m afraid I’ll have to chop half of it off to have it hemmed. HELP! Are there any other bees out there who’ve had similar fears or experiences? How did this factor in to your dress decision-making?
Post # 3
Yup – I am exactly your size and have a youngish face, too. I feared that I would look like a child bride in most dresses (and someimtes I did!) I ended up picking a dress that made me feel my age (29) and confident and sexy. You will have plenty of options to choose from, do not worry!
All the sample sizes will be huge on you, but you have to ignore that. When you get the dress in your size, it will be fabulous and fit to your body. I ordered a small size and still need alterations, but it’s not that bad.
As long as you do not spending some money on alterations, sky is the limit!
Post # 4
I am your exact size too! It’s fun b/c you never have to worry about wearing too hight of heels, but frustrating at the same time b/c EVERYTHING needs to be hemmed!
As for dress shopping, I think you’ll be fine. Most places that have dresses with detail at the bottom will alter the dress from the waist to not lose that detail. Most of the time, the dress length never suits the average bride. They make them long for a reason…so that super tall brides don’t have to have fabric added and so that short brides are fine too!
Good luck finding "the dress"!!!
Post # 5
I am 5′ although I am not 105lb (try 130lbs – UGH) you will find something!
I ended up getting my dress in a petite lenght so that helped.
and yeah although I myself have a young face – I get mistaken for being younger than my 13 yr old brother (who by the way looks rediculously young himself) I didn’t feel like a child in the dresses. I was confident enough in them that I just don’t think that occored to me!
Post # 6
I totally feel you. I’m actually even a bit smaller than you. In the end, I bought a custom design, but I was also able to find a few dresses that I liked in regular bridal salons…just not "the one".
A lot of designers will let you order a "petite" size which has a shorter bodice. they charge extra, but I thin if there’s a lot of detailing it’s probably worth it. If you’re like me, then over the years you’ve developed a deep appreciation for good tailoring and what can and can’t be altered. I think those rules still apply. Consultants will tell you *everything* can be altered. But trust your judgment also. Taking in an intricate ruched bustline is a nightmare. It can be done (just had it done for another outfit) but recognize it’s a long process.
As for fit, a lot of dresses just drowned me. Not just b/c the sample size was big, but b/c of the design. Again, use the judgment you’ve already gained about what looks good on you. some styles really did make me look 12 even though they’d look amazing and sophisticated on a woman who was 5′ 6". Trust your instincts and don’t let people talk you into something you’re unsure of. A lot of people don’t understand petite fit, or the fear of looking like you’re in high school.
All of that said, though, you will be able to find a dress you love:)
Post # 7
I’m exactly FIVE FEET. It totally sucks. I felt like everything was huge on me. There were a few dresses I tried on that I loved, but they were just huge or long on me.
That being said, I think Maggie Sottero does make short length or petite sizes.
I’m ready to find my dream dress for crying out loud! It is pretty frustrating.
Post # 8
Casablanca cuts dresses to individual height for no extra charge.
Post # 9
I’m really small too-one of the reasons I picked my dress was because it was really simple -as much as I would love to wear a big huge poofey dress with lots of beading, I knew I could never pull it off so I didn’t even bother. I’ve been getting stuff hemmed and taken in my whole life so it just comes with the territory of shopping. Small people get no love these days as far as womens clothing goes, so I understand why you are worried…with that said, I know you will find something you love. I did, and I have the worst time finding anything that fits.
Post # 10
Thanks for your help, hive! I feel a lot better about it. I guess I’m just nervous because this is my first time dress shopping, and I know people are going to tell me something can be done to a dress simply because they want to make a sale. You girls have been great!
Post # 11
Oh don’t fret, there are plenty of options out there for petite brides! I’m 5 tall, 105lbs, and small on top (sigh*) but people my size have been having a lot of luck with dresses lately.
Post # 12
I’m even smaller than you! 4’10" 95 llbs and a street size 0 to 2 (depending on the designer) Don’t worry you will find something fab!
When I was dress shopping I went to 12 stores and easily tried over 100 dresses. I ended up with my dream dress. With some designers, you can pay a little bit extra to order your dress in a hallow-to-hem measure so that you don’t have to hem up the dress later. My dress is a Paloma Blanca and I was able to do that.
You probably won’t be able to find any dresses that fit perfectly while you are trying on (I wasn’t) but you will be clipped into dresses and stand on the box to get an idea of what the dress will look like on you after you get everything in the right size and altered.
I stayed away from trying on ballgowns and otherwise poofy dresses as all that white fabric was way too overwhelming for me. I ended up with an A-Line dress that I’m having a layer of crinoline removed (to de-poof it a little bit) and taken in a the hip to make the dress a bit sleeker.
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Post # 13
Don’t, worry…I have a friend under 5 foot and they just kept altering the dress until it fit her like a glove! I am 5′ 2" and got a Maggie Sottero dress in petite (should not cost you any more than regular). The length will still need to be altered 1-2 inches, but it definitely helped! The fit is going to be perfect because the back is a corset lace up.
Post # 14
Hi there! I feel your pain, I am about your size too. I tried on tons of dresses! A few things I kept in mind was the hallow to hem option which a lot of people recommended. The other was that they can work wonders with these dresses and most dresses can have the detail removed and reattached. I did find the one! It does have an intricate design at the bottom of the gown which has to be taken off and reattached. I ended up choosing a modified mermaid gown which does not drown me out or make me look to small. Hope that helps and just keep shopping till you find the one its out there!!
Post # 15
Just a little word of warning:
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where they did the hallow to hem thing for her … but they forgot to add in HEELS!! The poor girl literally had 1 inch to work with for heels, and she usually wears at least 3” so that she is closer in height to her (now!) husband … so just make sure if you usually wear heels and are comfortable in them and plan to wear them on your wedding day that you get the hallow to hem with added length for your heels.
Post # 16
I’m on the small side too, 5’2 and 110lbs. The main thing I noticed when I was trying on dresses is that voluminous skirts made me look really short! I felt like a kid playing dress up in those poofy dresses! Slim silhouettes like sheaths and narrow a-lines worked best for me.