Post # 1
Ever since I got engaged last September and despite having no previous wedding planning experience I’ve been completely alone on my wedding planning. I originally started out with like 5 girls but had to let several of them go because they never commited except for one i never got to ask to be a bridesmaid because she passed away in a bad accident and now I’m just having two girls, my matron of honor and one bridesmaid. No one is helping me and it’s really hard on me. There’s people who would help but they don’t have time. My fiance and I are both on fixed incomes and still footing the whole bill for our wedding and people want to put in their two sense yet won’t pitch in and help with expenses. It’s really aggravating and stressful. I think unless people are helping out they need to keep their opinions to theirselves. I’m doing the best I can planning my wedding but I’m only one person and I can only do so much and planning a wedding no matter how big or small is a multi person job. I know im doing a good job but at the same time i just feel like I’m completely lost and I need somebody to talk to about my wedding planning. My wedding is this october
Post # 2
Well it is your wedding, other than your Fiance who do you think is responsible for planning it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
You should be able to turn to your Fiance to help plan the wedding as it’s for and about the both of you. If others offer to help (financially or otherwise) that’s great, but no one else is required to jump in.
Planning can be hard, which is why you should be able to lean on your Fiance at a time like this.
Post # 4
My husband and I planned our wedding on our own. No bridal party. I had a couple good friends who got married last year offer me advice if I asked but other than that, we had no input from anyone and we preferred it like that because we got the exact day we wanted. And paid for it.
I dunno what you’re looking for here but planning your wedding is your job?
Post # 5
By yourself? Where is your fi in all this? Wedding planning is exactly up to two people, the bride and groom getting married. Yeah, we bounce ideas off interested family/ friends, but it’s our wedding and our responsibility. If it’s too much for you, maybe scale back your plans? Or hire a professional wedding planner if it’s in the budget?
Post # 6
I’m sorry that your feeling unsupported during this time. *hugs* Lean on your fiance for support – wedding planning is really a joint responsibility between the two of you, and any additional assistance given by others (financial or otherwise) is not required. And when somebody gives an unwanted opinion, a simple “thanks for your suggestion,” will do wonders. Good luck!
Post # 7
Your fi needs to step up and help you and give you emotional support too.
Post # 8
I am sorry but it really is up to you and your Fiance to plan this. No one else is obliged to help you plan it or pay for it. Whilst I understand it must be upsetting to have no one to help you plan really this is an issue between you and your Fiance and you need to speak to him if he is not pulling his weight.
Post # 9
I planned mine alone b/c I wanted to. DH helped.
Post # 10
i planned my wedding with my mom. my bridesmaids were not involved at all. i went with them when we picked out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and they threw me a shower. then they came to the wedding. but they did not make any decisions and i didn not ask them for help.
the people who should be planning your wedding are you and your Fiance.
Post # 11
No one else is suppose to plan YOUR wedding. This reads like you resent others advice because they are offering to help pay. I’m sorry you feel that way. Are you going to be bitter when they come to the wedding too?
Post # 12
You could always elope. That takes care of the budget issue too.
Post # 13
You can always chat about weddings here but your Fiance is the person who needs to be lending a hand.
Post # 14
It’s YOUR wedding so it’s your responsibility to plan it. 90% of the people you are venting to planned their wedding by themselves too, I know I did
Post # 15
Is your fiance helping? You shouldn’t be assigning jobs to your wedding party, it’s not their wedding, it’s yours (and your future husband’s)