Post # 1
Sooo I getting married on Saturday! Yay! And I’m going to be a mom! We just found out yesterday and quickly told his parents. We are Christians soit was hard. We haven’t told my parents yet and are thinking about waiting until after the wedding. I know them well (they ARE my parents) and i KNOW they would not take the news well.
Should we wait, enjoy the wedding and let them know after? Or should we tell them?
Post # 3
I think wait until after the wedding, a few days won’t hurt, but I wouldn’t try to pretend it was a honeymoon baby, tell them the truth
Post # 4
@murray512: Do you think they’d notice that you weren’t drinking? Or do you never drink alcohol anyways? I’m pretty sure my parents would have noticed if I didn’t take a sip of alcohol at the reception…
Post # 5
If you’ve told his parents, you need to tell yours BEFORE the wedding.
Post # 6
Honestly, I would wait. You are still so early in the pregnancy that waiting a week or two won’t make a difference. But on the other hand, you have already told his parents and you don’t want to put your parents in a bad situation.
Post # 7
Congrats on both accounts. How far along are you? I would suggest waiting the 10-12 weeks to tell anyone. Enjoy your wedding.
Post # 8
Double congrats!!! I was also wondering how far along you are? Typically you might not tell people for a few months until you are out of the higher risk stage, so If you are less than 12 weeks I would wait.
Post # 9
We have having a dry wedding because we are both 20 and and he’s in a christian fraternity.
So no worries there!
The funny thing is, we’ve been abstaining from for 10 days…and then we find out! lol
Post # 10
Well, you kind of got yourself in a dicey position by telling his parents already… But if you’re having a dry wedding, and you’re positive his parents won’t spill the beans (or haven’t told people already), then you could probably wait until after the honeymoon to tell your parents. Technically, you’re not really supposed to tell anyone you’re pregnant until you’re 3 months along or so (due to the high risk of first trimesters), so if you tell your parents after the honeymoon that you’re a month or two along, you should be ok. Congratulations on both the wedding and the baby!
Post # 11
I clicked on this post, because I know a couple in your situation who is marrying on your same date. However, their parents are aware and their wedding date was chosen as a result of the couple learning they were expecting a baby.
I am struggling with how to advise you, because his parents know and yours do not. That doesn’t seem fair or right and may be hurtful to your family if and when they discover this inequity later. Here is a question for you. Do your parents know that you have been sexually active prior to marriage, or will that revelation in and of itself be a shock to them?
Post # 12
That’s my greatest concern. Since the wedding planning our families have had there tiffs to say the least.
My parents arent naive. They suspect but I still it would be a shock. The only thing keeping me from telling them is that I want them to be happy. I truly believe that this week WOULD make a difference in that.
I trust them and I know that they love me. I also want them to love my huaband to be….
Post # 13
@murray512: Sorry for the delay in responding to your update. I wanted to consult with my Darling Husband, who is a senior pastor, to get his thoughts on this before I commented further.
He said that, with your wedding being so close, there likely isn’t sufficient time for your parents to be able to hear and absorb this news and process it enough to bring themselves to the point of being able to enjoy all of the festivities surrounding your wedding.
He said that by not telling them until after the wedding, you are not really keeping the news from them but simply choosing the time to share it with them.
I hope all goes well for you!
Post # 14
I would wait until after the wedding as long as his parents don’t accidentally mention it to yours! I would be worried they’d end up spilling the beans and then your parents would be really hurt that they heard it through someone else rather than from you.
Post # 15
Wait until after the wedding. There is no need to tell them now especially if you don’t think it will go over well.
Post # 16
@Brielle: wow. I am touched that you sought out for me when you don’t know me.
That really makes me feel better because I know they will be happy but not at this time. We are just trusting the Lord! We are so excited and when we do share with my family, everything will be fine.
Thank you all for your suport and advice!