(Closed) i'm pregnant and I'm getting married in five days!

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think wait until after the wedding, a few days won’t hurt, but I wouldn’t try to pretend it was a honeymoon baby, tell them the truth

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@murray512:  Do you think they’d notice that you weren’t drinking?  Or do you never drink alcohol anyways?  I’m pretty sure my parents would have noticed if I didn’t take a sip of alcohol at the reception…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If you’ve told his parents, you need to tell yours BEFORE the wedding. 

Congratulations! 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I would wait. You are still so early in the pregnancy that waiting a week or two won’t make a difference. But on the other hand, you have already told his parents and you don’t want to put your parents in a bad situation.

Congrats!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Congrats on both accounts. How far along are you? I would suggest waiting the 10-12 weeks to tell anyone. Enjoy your wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Double congrats!!! I was also wondering how far along you are? Typically you might not tell people for a few months until you are out of the higher risk stage, so If you are less than 12 weeks I would wait.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, you kind of got yourself in a dicey position by telling his parents already… But if you’re  having a dry wedding, and you’re positive his parents won’t spill the beans (or haven’t told people already), then you could probably wait until after the honeymoon to tell your parents.  Technically, you’re not really supposed to tell anyone you’re pregnant until you’re 3 months along or so (due to the high risk of first trimesters), so if you tell your parents after the honeymoon that you’re a month or two along, you should be ok.  Congratulations on both the wedding and the baby!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I clicked on this post, because I know a couple in your situation who is marrying on your same date. However, their parents are aware and their wedding date was chosen as a result of the couple learning they were expecting a baby.

I am struggling with how to advise you, because his parents know and yours do not. That doesn’t seem fair or right and may be hurtful to your family if and when they discover this inequity later. Here is a question for you. Do your parents know that you have been sexually active prior to marriage, or will that revelation in and of itself be a shock to them?

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@murray512:  Sorry for the delay in responding to your update. I wanted to consult with my Darling Husband, who is a senior pastor, to get his thoughts on this before I commented further.

He said that, with your wedding being so close, there likely isn’t sufficient time for your parents to be able to hear and absorb this news and process it enough to bring themselves to the point of being able to enjoy all of the festivities surrounding your wedding.

He said that by not telling them until after the wedding, you are not really keeping the news from them but simply choosing the time to share it with them.

I hope all goes well for you!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would wait until after the wedding as long as his parents don’t accidentally mention it to yours! I would be worried they’d end up spilling the beans and then your parents would be really hurt that they heard it through someone else rather than from you.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wait until after the wedding. There is no need to tell them now especially if you don’t think it will go over well.

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