Post # 1
So Friday night I took a HPT fully acknowledging that I was wasting a test only to find a BFP staring back at me!! My husband and I weren’t planning on TTC until later this year, but we went of BC in March to get my body ready – well I guess it was! 3 test later I finally started to believe that I may be pregnant. Now, I’m scared to death of miscarrying. We have our first apt next Wed and I’m so afraid I’m going to get an ultrasound and find out that something is wrong. Has anyone else felt this way?
I guess my fears come mainly from my lack of symptons. I’m not tired, if anything I have more energy, no morning sickness either. The only thing I have is tender breasts which seem to come and go. I also have fairly regular cramps. Nothing bad, it just feels like the beginning of a period. I think that is normal, but I can’t shake the feeling that something is going to go wrong.
Did anyone go through something similiar? And if so how did you deal?
Post # 3
Aw sweety! Congrats 🙂 I had no symptoms at first either! I didn’t think I was pregnant and still had doubts until I saw the baby at the sonogram haha. I’m sure everything is perfect with you. I had and still have a lot of fears about miscarriage as well. My advice to you is don’t tell anyone you’re pregnant unless you’re comfortable with confiding in them that you’ve miscarried as well. We still haven’t told a lot of our friends and extended family, and we’re out of the first trimester! Each person is different, take it easy, make sure YOU are comfortable and have fun!
Congratulations again! Have you calculated your due date yet? 🙂
Post # 4
I am experiencing something similar. A lot of people around us have miscarried lately and it makes me nervous. I deal by trying to stay calm and positive, and ensure that I do everything that’s in my power to have a healthy pregnancy. If I do miscarry, I won’t be able to blame myself.
I have symptoms that come and go, and I guess it would reassure me, too, to get all symptoms very strong. But we’re all different…
Post # 5
I wouldn’t have known I was pregnant if not for the missed period.
Post # 6
@firsttimemom: According to google, I’m due Dec.4th. but I’m not sure how accurate that is since it was my first month of BC and I have no idea when I ovulate. I did take a test about 2 weeks ago when it was when I would have started my period had I been on the pill and it was negative. I guess I’ll find out Wed.!
Post # 7
@Tisty1982: How exciting! An end of the year present that allows you the tax deduction for the entire year! 🙂
Post # 8
What you are feeling is so normal.
When I found out I was pregnant, I was consumed with worry. I would read into every twinge and I would think about it all the time. I also didn’t let myself beleive that it was real for fear that I would lose it.
My only advice is to try to stay of google. When you look online, it seems like everyone is miscarrying, but that is not really the case. I found some comfort in the statistics and I tried to aviod alot of the miscarriage posts on message boards. I knew that there was nothing I could do to prevent it, so I tried to keep my anxiety under control the best I could. I think knowing that “whatever will happen, will happen” almost makes it harder. You feel powerless and like you are just waiting to see.
Now that I just started my 2nd trimester I can finally put some of this worry aside. But as someone who has just been there….and spent 3 months worrying all the time, I really feel for you
Post # 9
Congrats!! It may just be too soon to have symptoms yet. How many weeks along are you? And some women just don’t really have too many symptoms. Everyone is different. Try not to worry (I know it is hard to do!) and just take care of yourself. Good luck at your appt. next week!! 🙂
Post # 10
Congrats!! I also didn’t have any symptoms (beyond peeing a lot) until I was maybe 6 or so weeks along. I was worried about not having symptoms, but then once the queasiness came I realized not having symptoms wasn’t such a bad thing 🙂
Post # 11
Thank you so much for all the support. We haven’t told anyone about the BFP so I don’t really have anyone to turn to right now with my fears. You guys are amazing
@Jenn23: I think I may be 6 weeks, according to google at least!
Post # 12
@Tisty1982: Congratulations! To echo PP, what you are feeling is totally normal. This is probably Too Much Information, but for several weeks after the positive HPT, I checked my undies for blood every single time I went to the bathroom. I found myself wanting to take another HPT all the time, just to prove it was real – but I didn’t. As every week goes by, you will feel better and worry less. Hitting the second trimester was a huge relief.
My advice is to do whatever you can to not worry: do some yoga, take a long walk, watch your favorite movie. Worrying will not help you or the baby one bit! Think positive, happy thoughts.
And FWIW, I didn’t really have any symptoms until 8 weeks!
Post # 13
Congrats! The fears don’t go away; it’s just something that pregnant women deal with. Try not to freak yourself out too much and remember to do kick counts when you get to week 28.
Post # 14
Aww first of all congrats. Dont be so worried its not good for you!! Everyones pregnancy is different and not everyone has symptoms early on or the same ones. Enjoy your pregnancy 🙂
Post # 15
@lilybay: I’m doing the same thing! Every time I go potty I’m watching for spotting! And I’m so tempted to just buy a stack of HPT, but I know until I see the dr I will still not believe it.
It helps so much to know I’m not alone in feeling this way. My husband has been so supportive, but I don’t think he really understands how I feel.
Post # 16
I know how you feel. Im 25 1/2 weeks and Im still nervous. I found out i was pregnant at 6 weeks and i didnt start getting ill until i was around 8 weeks… even then i had a hard time beleiving it. I constantly check for bleeding also.
I also have an anterior placenta which stops you from feeling the baby move as much as someone else would feel theirs… that really didnt help either.
I agree with TheFutureMcBride i dont think it ever stops..