(Closed) Im Pregnant!!! Who did you tell first??

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
1906 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Congrats!! Super exctig Times – I was about as far along as u when I found out. I’m 13.5 weeks now 😉 

I told hubby first obviously then told my parents then his parents, then waited the 3 months to tell anyone else. 

Now every one else close  to us knows 🙂 

Post # 3
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I found out at 3.5 weeks (tracked ovulation) I told my mom and sister at 5 weeks, rest of family at 8 weeks After first uLtrasound.

Post # 4
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

First of all, congratulations!!! Second of all, I would probably be upset too if I was in your SIL’s shoes. I would hate hearing that news from my husband and not directly from my SIL! So I would be honest with her. Let her know that you were not ready to tell anyone, that your DH let it slip in his excitement and that you’re sorry she didn’t hear it directly from you. To be honest, I would be upset if my DH went around telling people when had agreed to wait. For us, it was a very private and personal decision. We told our parents right away and we told everyone else at around 10 weeks when I had an ultrasound and felt much more confident about the pregnancy. Congrats again and I hope you are able to smooth things over with your SIL!

Post # 5
3170 posts
Sugar bee

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souza_2005:  Congrats! It sounds to me like your SIL is being a bit of a drama queen and making your pregnancy about her, when it is really all about your bundle of joy. If my BIL’s wife got pregnant, I would be totally fine hearing the news from him instead of directly from her. To answer your question – other than my Fiance, I would only want my mom and dad to know up to 3 months just in case. My first call will be to my Fiance and then to my mom.

Post # 6
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My parents (considering they were here when I found out),
our best friends, then a month later his parents (when we saw them in person.)

Post # 7
1662 posts
Bumble bee

We found out at 3.5 weeks. I told my mom (who told my dad) and best friend at 4.5 weeks. We told DH’s parents at 7 weeks and siblings at 11 weeks. Then I began to tell everyone else at 12 after my first trimester screening. 

Post # 8
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

We found out at 3.5 weeks but didn’t tell close family (parents, siblings) until 8 weeks and then everyone else after the 12 week scan. Out little guy is now 1 year. 🙂

Post # 9
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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souza_2005:  We found out at about 5 weeks I think. It was super important to us that whenever we told the important people in our lives that we do it together. Plus we filmed reactions. We found out in early Dec. and knew we would wait and tell only our immediate families and close friend around Christmas. We got to tell almost everyone in person which was so fun, and face-timed with others. I’m now 13+2 and we’ve just told the next level of friends and will announce to Facebook this week. 

Post # 10
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I told my sisters and parents the same day I found out, but I didn’t know how far along I was. We told my Mother-In-Law 4 days later and she told everybody. UGGHH!! At that time I was about 8,5 weeks pregnant. I told close friends when I was in my second trimester.

Post # 11
1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m 9 weeks and we’ve already announced to everybody. I’ve known for well over a month and we just had our first visit with an ultrasound yesterday and everything was showing/measuring perfectly according to my doctor with absolutely no concerns. We decided to announce because all close friends and family were already told and I’ve been so sick that we’ve been missing events, church, volunteer events, etc. and we didn’t want people to think we’re flaky or anything. 

Post # 12
9422 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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souza_2005:  congrats! we’re TTC (POAS day is this Friday!) and I plan on telling my husband first and then my best friend. Since we’re going away with a few other families this weekend my friend and I devised a code so that she’ll know if this month is finally the month, but I won’t have to make an announcement (if I pretend I’m giving up alcohol for lent then she knows to be happy!)

Everyone else is waiting until at least the 8 week mark and maybe longer. My criteria is if I wouldn’t tell you about a miscarriage then you have to wait until 2nd trimester to find out. 

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Post # 13
7991 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

congrats – it really depends on your comfort level.  you can share whenever you want.


our pregnancy is an IVF pregnancy, so some of our close friends knew we were going through treatment.  we told my mom 2 days after we found out.  we told his mom after our 7 week ultrasound.  we told some close family members at 8/9 weeks after our 8 week ultrasound.  at 10 weeks, we had our first appointment with ob who said the m/c rate was less than 3% and we could share when we were comfortable.  we told our inner circle of friends at 11 weeks.  then we told a few more friends at the 13/14 week point.

i am 30w2d today.  we never made a public annoncement.  we still run into people who didn’t know we are pregnant.

Post # 14
833 posts
Busy bee

I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant and we found out just over a week ago. We told his parents first since it was his dad’s birthday and we knew they’d be thrilled. I told my parents a couple days later. We also told our siblings and I told my two best friends who knew we were trying. I figured that those are the people I would want there for support and to know if something goes wrong so it made sense to tell them earlier. Everyone else will have to wait until 10-12 weeks when we’re confident things are progressing normally.

And it’s not about bad luck, it’s about having to potentially go back and tell all the people you’ve told that something went wrong. That can be heartbreaking if you’ve told tons of people and constantly have them coming to congratulate you and you have to share the bad news over and over again. That’s why most people don’t announce right away.

Post # 15
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I told my sister and parents as soon as we found out. We didn’t tell anyone else until 13w5d, including DH’s family and all friends.

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