(Closed) "I'm Pregnant"or "We're Pregnant"?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: I or We



  • Post # 2
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I usually say “I,” but whenever I’m not thinking about it, I find myself slipping into “we.” And then I get embarrassed and correct myself, lol. I always thought it should be “I’m pregnant,” but now that I actually am, it does feel like a “we” experience because he has been so supportive and really with me every step of the way!

    Post # 3
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My Mother-In-Law always says THEY so when I get pregnant I will probably correct her to ME, my DH just showed up.

    Post # 4
    10635 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Why not we’re expecting instead?  I think we’re pregnant sounds a bit silly but usually those saying it are happy.

    Post # 5
    2020 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My DH always thought it was weird when people would say we so I say I lol

    Post # 6
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I said, “I’m pregnant” but “we’re expecting a baby”. I was the only one having pregnancy symptoms but we were expecting the baby together. 

    Post # 7
    2570 posts
    Sugar bee

    Just a disclosure I am planning on being child free so take this response for what it’s worth I think it’s very strange to say “were pregnant”. If I was to have a baby I would say I’m pregnant but that is just my choice of course everyone is different.

    Post # 8
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    rosegoldgirl:  I’d go with “I’m pregnant” or “We’re expecting a baby”. I’m normally very specific in my wording, not intentionally, it’s just a thing, and since he won’t have a big belly, “we’re pregnant” wouldn’t be something that I’d say. 

    Post # 9
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Only one person is physically pregnant.. so I think the only logical thing to do is say “we’re expecting.” I understand it’s a team effort thing but I dunno, I just think about some women in my life who say men know nothing about the struggle of pregnancy so I don’t think they would easily share the credit of pregnancy with them.

    Post # 10
    7425 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’M definitely the only one who is pregnant, but WE are having a baby.

    Post # 11
    2127 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I’m not pregnant, so this is just what I think about it now. It could all change when I’m pregnant myself.

    I wouldn’t go as far as to say “we’re pregnant” is annoying or anything like that, but I do think it’s incorrect and a bit silly. I understand that it’s a symbol of unity and that you both made that baby, but men aren’t pregnant and just because dad attends midwife appointments and is supportivve does not mean that they’re anywhere close to actually growing and carrying a child. Pregnancy is a very personal thing that women go through. I think what people really mean when they say “we’re pregnant” is “we’re expecting a baby”, which makes more sense.

    Post # 12
    2180 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think it’s odd to use a plural when using the word “pregnant” in a sentence like that. Like, I understand what you mean, but unless both people in question are actually pregnant only one of you is taking on the health risks and responsibility of gestation and birth. “We’re expecting [a baby]” is inclusive and acknowledges how important your partner is in this process!

    Post # 13
    7809 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Well, as far as I could tell, I WAS the only one pregnant. No matter how sympathetic he might have been, he was not pregnant. The child was most certainly eagerly anticipated by both of us, but there was simply no possible way he could share in carrying the child/ren.

    Post # 14
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    rosegoldgirl:  Definitely “I,” but I balk at the we-ification of women in relationships.  Just because you do something with your husband doesn’t mean you have to describe it in first person plural.

    Post # 15
    47430 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I fiind it kind of creepy when men say “we’re pregnant”. No, we are not. She is. You are expecting a child with her because she is pregnant.

    If the man had kidney stones, no one would think it normal for the woman to say”we have kidney stones”.

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