Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
I thought this would be a fun poll. When referring to your pregnancy, do you consider this a team effort or a one-person sport? Why or why not?
I always say “we.” Darling Husband is at every doctor appointment. He deals with my craziness. Even though he can’t actually feel how I’m feeling, he tries his hardest to help and be supportive and does a great job at it!
Post # 2
I usually say “I,” but whenever I’m not thinking about it, I find myself slipping into “we.” And then I get embarrassed and correct myself, lol. I always thought it should be “I’m pregnant,” but now that I actually am, it does feel like a “we” experience because he has been so supportive and really with me every step of the way!
Post # 3
My Mother-In-Law always says THEY so when I get pregnant I will probably correct her to ME, my Darling Husband just showed up.
Post # 4
Why not we’re expecting instead? I think we’re pregnant sounds a bit silly but usually those saying it are happy.
Post # 5
My Darling Husband always thought it was weird when people would say we so I say I lol
Post # 6
I said, “I’m pregnant” but “we’re expecting a baby”. I was the only one having pregnancy symptoms but we were expecting the baby together.
Post # 7
Just a disclosure I am planning on being child free so take this response for what it’s worth I think it’s very strange to say “were pregnant”. If I was to have a baby I would say I’m pregnant but that is just my choice of course everyone is different.
Post # 8
rosegoldgirl: I’d go with “I’m pregnant” or “We’re expecting a baby”. I’m normally very specific in my wording, not intentionally, it’s just a thing, and since he won’t have a big belly, “we’re pregnant” wouldn’t be something that I’d say.
Post # 9
Only one person is physically pregnant.. so I think the only logical thing to do is say “we’re expecting.” I understand it’s a team effort thing but I dunno, I just think about some women in my life who say men know nothing about the struggle of pregnancy so I don’t think they would easily share the credit of pregnancy with them.
Post # 10
I’M definitely the only one who is pregnant, but WE are having a baby.
Post # 11
I’m not pregnant, so this is just what I think about it now. It could all change when I’m pregnant myself.
I wouldn’t go as far as to say “we’re pregnant” is annoying or anything like that, but I do think it’s incorrect and a bit silly. I understand that it’s a symbol of unity and that you both made that baby, but men aren’t pregnant and just because dad attends midwife appointments and is supportivve does not mean that they’re anywhere close to actually growing and carrying a child. Pregnancy is a very personal thing that women go through. I think what people really mean when they say “we’re pregnant” is “we’re expecting a baby”, which makes more sense.
Post # 12
I think it’s odd to use a plural when using the word “pregnant” in a sentence like that. Like, I understand what you mean, but unless both people in question are actually pregnant only one of you is taking on the health risks and responsibility of gestation and birth. “We’re expecting [a baby]” is inclusive and acknowledges how important your partner is in this process!
Post # 13
Well, as far as I could tell, I WAS the only one pregnant. No matter how sympathetic he might have been, he was not pregnant. The child was most certainly eagerly anticipated by both of us, but there was simply no possible way he could share in carrying the child/ren.
Post # 14
rosegoldgirl: Definitely “I,” but I balk at the we-ification of women in relationships. Just because you do something with your husband doesn’t mean you have to describe it in first person plural.
Post # 15
I fiind it kind of creepy when men say “we’re pregnant”. No, we are not. She is. You are expecting a child with her because she is pregnant.
If the man had kidney stones, no one would think it normal for the woman to say”we have kidney stones”.