Post # 61
Best man or no best man, once again, it’s perfectly acceptable etiquette to invite no kids except for immediate family. Only on the Bee have I ever seen anyone who believes that all child guests are created equally. But your issue is not only your Brother-In-Law and SIL, it’s with an pushy and presumably unreasonable friend who thinks his kids have equal standing to a nephew.
If your nephew really does have a place to stay locally, then of course they shouldn’t continue to push it. But maybe it’s not an acceptable situation, for reasons you know nothing about. Even now, I would have no problem telling the best man that your nephew is the only exception. Your call. My only point is there’s nothing rude about it.
Post # 62
I know. I was responding to WeddingMaven, not you (see the tag in my post). That poster said you should allow the nephew to come. I’m defending your decision. 🙂
Post # 63
The bestman isn’t upset about leaving the kids behind, but if nephew shows up he might be like WTF and I agree. If the parents can’t drop the child off at her sister’s house because of issues then they don’t have to come. Save themselves a trip. I’m childfree by choice, and frankly I don’t want a child at my wedding.