(Closed) I’m pretty sure I can’t win

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Miss. Flutterby: Can’t you just get married at the courthouse and then have a reception? I know you want people there, but it seems like if you put your money into the reception and have a really inexpensive ceremony, it might work better

Post # 5
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ultimately it needs to be what YOU are happy and satisfied with.  If you are happy taking a loan, spending a tonne of money and having the big wedding, then that’s fine, but at the end of the day, if you go against what you are COMFORTABLE with, then you will have a bad taste in your mouth over the whole thing.

I just recently dealt with something like that, people weighing in to give their options that just did not sit well with me….I stood my ground (against my own mom’s wishes, nonetheless) and I felt a weight come off my shoulder.  Stay true to yourself.

Post # 6
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Miss. Flutterby: Oh ok. Well then, I would just tell people that you need help, but you only want help if they are going to do it your way. Its your wedding, and you shouldnt’ have to put up with nay sayers. Can’t your bridal party help?

Post # 8
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ceremony and a pot luck?

Post # 11
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

what is your idea of a tiny budget? IF you dont mind me asking. There are a lot of ladies that plan weddings for under 2k. I think weather or not those people think that you can pull it off is a matter of opinion. Do your homework shop around and bargin with vendors. If you are determined you can make it work. Cut back on the things that you dont NEED and just have a fun celebration of your marriage with the people you love. You could even have a bbq in June 🙂

Post # 14
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, you can totally do it!!  Check out 2000dollarwedding.com and offbeatbride.com (and offbeat tribe, which is linked to from offbeat bride).  There are so many folks doing weddings on budgets like that!! You can do it!

Post # 15
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

OMG! i totally understand!

i pretty much hated the first month of wedding planning.. probably more!

i couldnt believe that ppl actually enjoyed it. I only wanted a really small wedding. Like max 40 ppl. Its been sooo frustrating because the invite list is now up to 91. not my idea of the perfect wedding. i imagined it to be really small and intimate. i dont want ppl there who arnt in my life and who havent made an effort to be in my life. also my mum wants to invite some of her friends which im not at all happy about. i hate that i am sharing something so personal with ppl who mean nothing to me.

Also, what i want for my wedding, i show ppl and they say no you wouldnt want that. I know its my day (and FH’s), and i can have what i want, but i do like to know what others think. and i do want to share the process with ppl,but my ideas just get slammed. (they are nothing special. just things like a lolly stand etc.

grrr ita ao frustrating. we have been talking about eloping because it is just sooo frustrating. I ended up shutting ppl out and then not doing any organising at all. for about a month. i have just started getting into it again. but i have been hiding things that i am doing. and i HATE that i have to hide things! Im a really creative person, everyone who knows me knows this. and it just frustrates me that everyone just cant say ok ill help you with that idea rather than wow that idea is shit. arghhh

anyways sooo sorry to have a vent on your post!

i feel better now

lol!

 

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