(Closed) I'm probably being over sensitive, but…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Eff them! You are beautiful in both pictures; they don’t know what they are talking about.

Post # 4
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SarahCF:  You’re totally adorable and you have the most beautiful smile.  I don’t think you’re being overly sensitive – I would have been really hurt by comments like that too.  I never wear makeup and was considering wearing some for my wedding – now I feel like I should skip it to avoid backlash.

Post # 5
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@SarahCF:  You are absolutely beautiful in both photos.  Sadly, people (even, and sometimes, especially, family members or in-laws) sometimes are too eager to share their opinions, and, unfortunately, can just be rude. I’m so sorry. Please do not allow others to upset or intimidate you.

Post # 6
680 posts
Busy bee

No, you are beautiful w/ the make up and au naturel as well. My mom kind of does the same thing to me. I’ve started to not wear a fully done face every single day (my SO says he likes me better w/o it and I’ve been in a detox mood lately so the less fake crap on my face the better) and recently my mom is like oh, you’re not wearing makeup? 

Depending on how close you are to them, maybe you could bring it up and just say how you feel? Otherwise, just ignore them. I wish I could look like a magazine model version of myself everyday, but I have to live my life, not spend hours prepping for it to appease others. Don’t let them get to you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d be hurt too. Do people not even think before they say things? Ugh.

Girl, you are perfectly fine and pretty the way you are. Way easier said than done, but I would ignore them. Or tell them what you wrote in that post! Or to summarize, “Um, no. I look great, and that was rude, and inappropriate.”

Post # 8
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You are beautiful, and they are being jerks. Don’t let them get you down!

Post # 9
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@SarahCF:  There are all kinds of beautiful, the wedding look is one, your daily look is another….neither is better, they’re just different, and different people like differen things…it your face, do what you want with it!

Post # 10
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@SarahCF:  Aw, you look great in your natural state! I wish my skin looked half as nice as yours! 

I do think you’re being a little overly sensitive though, they were most likely just paying you a compliment! Just smile and say “sure, will you help me pay for it?” and make a joke out of it ๐Ÿ™‚ 

You know, I remember having said “oh, you look great with your hair this way, you should always wear it like that” or “you look great in red, you should wear it more often” to a friend or coworker a million times and I never, EVER implied that they looked bad otherwise. For me, it’s the same as “you look beautiful” but put in a slightly different manner. 

Don’t worry! 

Post # 11
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re so pretty! I have no idea what they’re talking about. It’s perfectly okay not to want to spend two hours getting ready every day. You are beautiful both ways!

Post # 12
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SarahCF:  Aw. I think you might be being a little sensitive about it…but I can see your point of view! I wouldn’t let it get your self confidence down. You are gorgeous. NO ONE can be airbrushed all day everyday! Are you kidding me? 

Your Mother-In-Law, SIL, and friend need to learn a bit more tact. All too often women put pressure on other women to look a certain way and it’s just not right. 

If they keep making those comments, tell them that you were airbrushed by a professional artist! That it would be literally impossibe to keep up that routine! Remind them that you are comfortable in your own skin! 


I have curly hair and am a wiz with a hair straightner. It took years to master, but alas I have. Whenever I straighten my hair, people flip. They make comments like “OMG YOUR HAIR LOOKS SO AMAZING” or “WHY DONT YOU FIX IT LIKE THAT MORE OFTEN”…. so I find myself thinking “What’s wrong with my curly hair?”

I even got a new concealer, my family flipped asking where I got it and made comments like “Well if it worked that great on you I need to get a bottle for myself”…. 

So just let it roll off your back!!! People say REALLY stupid stuff, often they do not realize the connotations of their words. 


Post # 14
4940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@SarahCF:   You are beautiful just as you are!!  I love your smile.  Please don’t let those women get you down.   

Post # 15
7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@SarahCF:  They are being super bitchy. Even those of us who do wear make up don’t ever look as nice as a bride who’s been professionally made up. That’s just stupid. Pull out their wedding photos and ask why they don’t look that nice every day!

Post # 16
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@SarahCF:  I love your husband’s reaction! You married a great guy ๐Ÿ™‚

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