- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My Mother-In-Law and SIL keep making comments that kind of hurt my feelings and make me feel ugly.
We got our professional photos back and they are absolutely gorgeous. There are some portraits of me that make me look really beautiful. I don’t often feel pretty, so it’s nice to have them.
Both my Mother-In-Law and SIL, instead of just saying “you looked beautiful that day” have instead shown me these pictures of myself and made comments like “so you’ll be wearing makeup like this from now on, right?” or “you should wear makeup so you can look like this.” I feel like their comments imply that I look like shit normally and that they would like me to put some effort into my appearance so they can see me looking decent.
I almost never wear makeup. I did wear makeup for the wedding, but purposely had it done to look natural. It looked great, was just what I wanted, but even so it cost me nearly $200. I had a professional makeup artist come and airbrush me, give me fake eyelashes, the whole nine yards. I spent about the same on a professional hair stylist. Factor in the dress, alterations, shoes, jewelry, mani/pedi, and the look for the day added up to about $3,000. Add in another $2500 for photography and it literally cost me over $5000 to look like that in photos. I will likely never look that beautiful again. It is truly the best I could ever look.
so it bothers me that they want me to aspire to look like that more often. It’s not like I normally look like a slob! I don’t wear makeup, and many times when they see me my hair is pulled back into a ponytail, but I’m always dressed and groomed appropriately. I regularly exfoliate and moisturize my face so my skin is quite nice.
I am certain they don’t mean to hurt my feelings. But can’t they just say “you looked beautiful” and leave it at that?
For reference, I am posting wedding pics and a pic of me in my normal state. I mean really, do I look that hideous otherwise?
Top photo: me looking my best ever, with the exception of some serious backfat. Bottom photo: me in my natural state. I also had a friend ask me before the wedding if I’d be fixing my hair and wearing makeup at the wedding. She asked in this tone of like “um, you’re at least going to fix your hair, right?”
Seriously, is my hair and face that bad that I need to spend $thousands to look decent?