I completely understand where you are coming from, and do not think you are being materialistic or ungrateful… I had a ring picked out also, and it was very modest as we are on a tight budget too. But I had similar sentiments… what is saving for a few months in order to give an expression of how you feel, your commitment, etc. My wonderful fiance thought that he’d surprise me with a bigger ring, without researching the fact that diamonds come in different clarity and colors- so the larger diamond (.75 instead of .5) shocked me at first, and then when I noticed the inclusions and looked up the exact clarity and color (I don’t even remember what my diamond is actually rated, which shows how much it matters!!!!), I was a little bummed he didn’t get a smaller one, with a higher quality. Picky picky, I am…..
But then I got to thinking. My Fiance and I are both FULL of flaws…. so what better than a slightly included gemstone to represent the commitment we are making to eachother. Despite the flaws, it is still beautiful. He says he wants to buy me a “better” soliatire for our 5 year anniversary, because he could sense my surprise. While I am thrilled with my ring and the love and FOREVER that it represents, it wasn’t the one I picked out… Your ruby is beautiful, and think of it as a representation of what the two of you have. It’s fine for you to feel the way you feel!
My ring is definitely not as nice, extravagant, or fancy as some of my friends, but I have learned really doesn’t matter to me…. I once had a roommate who couldn’t believe some men bought engagement rings at, “THE MALL?!?!?!?” She got her Tiffany’s ring… is she any happier than me? I don’t think so!
Also, our proposal was absolutely amazing, but once during an argument I tried to claim that I had “set up” our proposal… I wanted to watch a sunset at the park we were at on the day he planned to propose, and it became his perfect opportunity to pop the question. Did he spend hours thinking of a time, place, and the perfect words to say? No- but he was nervous, had put the thought into wanting to ask me to be his WIFE, and when the moment felt right to him he asked me to be his wife. I am so glad I didn’t expect it and was able to feel surpsrise and excitement….
I have read lots of posts about girls whose guys can only afford a Cubic Zirconia (sp?) and they are abosultely happy and the photos they posted are beautiful- these can be as inexpensive as $20… And remember that many people only wear their wedding bands once they’re married. I saw some CZ wedding bands that are beautiful, and even this diamond one from Helzberg Diamonds is only about $250.
My Diamond Wedding Band
Helzberg has a “Smart Value” line, which is what my ring is… hence the inclusions… but there are a lot of products in that line for us budget brides 🙂
Good luck, girl! Hope that you find some peace with your feelings, I know it can really be tough when you ARE so happy but there’s that little twinge of uncertainty.