(Closed) I'm probably overreacting but I just need to get this off my chest.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Ooooo poor Lynn may have bitten off more than she could chew :/ it sounds like maybe she’s panicking now. I would be a little annoyed, just because Id be worried that my past vendors would be upset with me for disclosing my cost, and now someone I know is trying to usethat against them to badger them to lower their cost. So I do get being annoyed. If you’re really good friends with Lynn, I might try to help her a little bit (by finding OTHER vendors) just because I wouldnt want to see her freaking out and panicking if she’s stuck, but I also wouldnt let yourself get sucked into it too far!!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My name is Lynn and I have a good friend Rebecca… so reading this was a little weird for me Smile

Just to note re: inflation…  Inflation has been relatively stable for the past couple of years so since your wedding 2 years ago, inflation would have raised priced by about 4% ($40 on every $1,000).  Just the economist in me wanting to clarify. 

However, venders are different as their years of experience help them raise prices significantly faster than market prices.  So of course they will be more expensive 2 years later (especially after gaining exposure)!  I’m sorry Lynn is making you jump through hoops when she likely won’t even use these venders!

Maybe instead you can tell her how you found them.  Did you check out a certain website?  Maybe look for certain keywords?  That might be more helpful and get her to stop bugging you.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The only thing that would bug me about this, is…if Lynn is getting paid $3k, why is she making me do all her work for her? If non-disclosure of contract price was not something your vendors required, then it really doesn’t matter if Lynn is trying to negotiate lower prices on the basis of your old contracts. Vendors are free to insist on the fees they want.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Post # 7
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Helper bee

I’d tell Lynn that you’re really busy at the moment so please don’t be offended if you don’t reply straight away to her messages… and take a step back! You could also tell her that you’ve sent her all the info you have about the weddings, but you just haven’t got the chance to help her any more while you’re so busy with xyz. Do you think she’d take the hint? It’s totally unfair that she’s expecting you to do the work for her (for someone you hardly know) when she’s getting paid. I’m sure you’ve got other things to do! Maybe it’s unintentional, but Lynn is being unfair on you here.

Good luck x

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