(Closed) I’m proud of what FI does . .

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Honestly I can’t imagine being in that situation. I’m so sorry you’re getting the run around. Unfotunately it’s life in with the military, there isn’t a thing in the world that you can do to make an impact on the decision.

I know it’s impossible but just resign yourself to the fact that things WILL work out, one way or the other. You’ll figure it all out. You’ll lose less sleep if you’re not stressing out so badly about things you have zero control over.

I’m worried about the same things, just with a larger timeframe I guess. Our wedding is scheduled for May, Fiance is due home from deployment in March. I’m worried they’re going to get extended and we’ll be screwed. But nothing can be done about it yet and nothing is certain, so our family is aware of the situation, our vendors are as well. Have you talked to yours to figure out how to handle this situation?

I’m really sorry you’re going through all thus turmoil but I hope you can find some peace in that nothing you do will change anything that’s going to happen. Just roll with the punches.

Post # 5
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178 posts
Blushing bee

I’m in the same situation you are, except that he’s Army.  It’s ridiculous trying to plan around his deployments and training, and it is really stressing me out.  So far my plan is to have everything set and ready on the word “go” so I can literally throw it together at a moments notice when we know it will work out.  I’m also in grad school so that adds complications. 

The backup plan is that if for some reason we aren’t married by the time I graduate, then we are throwing in the towel and eloping, because I’m not waiting any longer than that (4 years from now). 

We had plans to have engagement pictures done next week, but they moved up his training dates by two weeks so now it may not happen until next summer, or a year from now.  Oh, jeez.

I’m sorry you’re going through this!  I hope it works out for you!  I don’t have any good advice, but know you aren’t alone!  PM me if you need to vent!

Post # 7
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry πŸ™ You do have a good damn reason to be pissed!

I know it was difficult for us when we didn’t know when Fiance would leave for basic (he’s AECF but is trying to go nuke). Finally we just set a date and are hoping it’s enough time.

Think about how awesome it will be when you are finally married!

 

Post # 9
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178 posts
Blushing bee

@HawaiiBamaBride: Oh, trust me I’m the same way.  I just have lists of what I can have done and stored now, what I need some notice for (like getting the invitations printed and ready) and what needs to be done a few weeks out (like favors, flowers, etc).  I’m checking off everything I absolutely can, because not having concrete plans really stresses me out!!!  I’m too Type A for this hahaha.  I need everything to be on its schedule, and for that schedule to not be messed with!  I guess I’m going to learn to let that go quickly with the military! 

I hate the idea of eloping, but I also understand if it hasn’t happened in four years, then it’s time to give in so I can just finally be with him.  I want the ceremony with our friends and family there and he really wants a big reception, so giving that up would kill me but we’ll do what we have to do.

PS.  I’m actually going to school in Alabama πŸ™‚  Just realized you are in the same state haha.  We’re having a Georgia wedding though.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

πŸ™ πŸ™ πŸ™

I’m sorry.  It sucks, and there’s no other way to describe it.  Your feelings are perfectly legit and you have every reason to be upset. 

At least in 3 months, this will all be over!!  Go eat some Ben and Jerrys, take a long bath, and have a glass or two (or five) of wine.  Someday you’ll look back on this and say, “god, remember the time you almost missed the wedding and then this this and this happened???”

Post # 13
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@HawaiiBamaBride: Oh my gosh I LOVE that wine!!!  Darling Husband got me a bottle for our dating anniversary last year.  He surprised me with it, but before he gave it to me, he was saying he had planned a threesome for our anniversary (which is NOT our thing!!).  Then he gave me the bottle and just died laughing while I realized that the name of the wine means “threesome”.

*eyeroll* silly boys…

Post # 15
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@piglet_625: It’s true, it’ll make for a great story later on. It’ll all work out, just remember that. Pick up that menange a trois tomorrow – a little bit of wine goes a long way when you’re dealing with all this crap.

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