(Closed) I’m really not a jerk but why am I feeling like this…..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

You probably are jealous but also a little worried about her making a mistake. I don’t know if you should say anything without knowing you guys personally.

Post # 4
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ummm honest I was not super happy for my Maid/Matron of Honor when she got engaged but I just kinda faked it and was open to seeing her happiness and now a year later I can see it was the right thing. She was also engaged after me and married before me, while at first it pissed me off our weddings ended up being so different it did not matter. Also it is also a good way to find the good and bad vendors.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m more worried they are rushing and she will end up hurt

as a couple, my hubby and i went from he held my hand to cross the street to im going to marry you in about 2 weeks – but we had a strong friendship before that and we both agree that that made the world of difference to us, maybe your friend is in a similar position, you did say they have known eachother their entire lives

 

Post # 6
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re NOT a jerk! It’s totally normal to feel like your thunder has been stolen when someone close to you suddenly gets engaged right after you did. It happens to the best of us.

Post # 9
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759 posts
Busy bee

I would be a little jealous too.  So I don’t think you’re being a jerk.  As time passes you will feel less and less like that I’m sure.  You will be too caught up in your own planning. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m in the same position, except they have been together a tad longer than 2 weeks. Not that it makes it any better, but I think it’s just a normal reaction. As humans we’re going to compare, and not out of malice or judgment, but we’re going to notice we’re taller or we’re older or we’ve been together longer than someone else.Usually it doesn’t amount to anything.

I wouldn’t say anything though, just let it play out. As long as she is ready for this, then it’s really not your (our) place to say anything to the contrary. I’m sure youre coming from a similar place. You want what’s best for her. But reality is, we have no idea what that is. Just be there for her, for better or for worse. 🙂

And jealous is totally normal, I think. If it’s not then I’m abnormal right now.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Seriously biatch, how do you think I felt when you got engaged right after me!? I mean holy crap, the engagement bagels and doughnuts were barely stale! ^_^ I’m just joking. 

I think it’s just our hormones. ^_^ Or maybe it’s because everything wedding related around us makes us feel we do deserve a year with the spotlight. You are AWARE of how you feel and I believe that’s important. In the end, you will be married and happy. She will be married and happy. And you will look back on this and laugh. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t even know she got engaged! 
Plus, you wouldn’t be a real friend if you weren’t concerned. I’d be concerned too. You can just offer your support and be happy for her. Effing bring her with us to the bridal show. Miss Taken (MOH…I only call her Miss Taken on my blog) is bringing wine. ^_^

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