(Closed) I'm Really Sad. DH Wants Us to Move Back to AZ. =(

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Wow what a hard decision. I personally would move back to AZ where he is going to have a good paying job. I know you have a job through the summer but he has a perm job that is guaranteed. I don’t agree with moving in with the inlaws. If he is working and you are looking for work, get your own apt if you can’t/don’t want to buy yet. You need your privacy, while it’s great the IL’s would allow you to live there, it’s not ideal and it seems like you like them however if you live there and hated it the first time round I guarantee you’ll hate it again especially after not living with them for awhile.

Post # 4
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bazinga:  +1  It’s hard, but I think you should move back for the stable job and the supportive family environment. But I also think you two should try and find your own apt or house within a few months of getting there.

Post # 5
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, if it were me the pros of him having a stable and well paying job would out weigh the cons. Could you move in with the in laws temporarily and get even just part time work in retail or a restaurant or something to help with the savings and moving into your own place until you can find a job in your field? It isn’t ideal but then you could get out on your own sooner and that would be one less con. That is a hard choice either way. Most of the cons I see would be temporary while the pros of good work would be much longer term. The only major one long term would be TTC, but given how long many people try and that pregnancy is almost as long as a year of school, you could potentially still start trying when you originally wanted and not HAVE a baby until he is out of school. 

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Stable job and homelife trump financial struggles in my book.  The fact that you made a list of the pro’s and con’s of AZ indicate to me that AZ is the more considerable choice.  What are the pro’s and con’s for Houston?

Post # 7
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Olive12:  I’d move back to Arizona and find your own place.

God, I’d kill to live in Arizona. I live in Alberta, Canada, and we go to Arizona on holiday! I can’t stand the weather here… six months of miserable winter.

We’ll be in Az next week, can’t wait!

Post # 8
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Some things to consider…

Can you move back to AZ but NOT live with his parents?

It sounds like where you currently live your Darling Husband doesn’t have a great job, and if you move to AZ then it will be you struggling with work. Whose job is more important? And when I say more important, I basically mean whose pays more and matters more when it comes to the bottom line and paying bills.

School being pushed back is obviously a concern, but if you stay where you’re at do you even make enough to afford tuition, since the job situations are less secure there?

Post # 9
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I live in Tucson, so I’m biased. 🙂 Move to AZ!

In reality, it seems the job situation would be better in AZ. Housing is cheap here though – why not get some inexpensive house or apartment to rent? Moving in with the in-laws sounds a bit rough. Also – could he take community college classes while he gets residency? It’s much much cheaper than university prices. Or is there an online college in Texas he can take classes from while he gets residency (we have Rio Salado here in AZ, not sure if there is an equivalent in TX)?

Post # 10
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Why is HIS employment more important than yours? Personally, I would not move to Arizona unless I wanted to.

Post # 12
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Id Stay where you are.. For now. Dh should be going to school full time and getting his degree. No need to waste a year in Az to save some money. Sometimes you have to spend money to make money. ESP if his degree is useful and he will make enough money pay off any loans. You two can move to Az at anytime and maybe you two should make that the end goal? 

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