Post # 1
I’ve been separated from my fiancee for about four months now. She left as she felt the relationship was becoming toxic – which I agree now, it was.
Anyway, I’m doing everything I can do to let go, but I’m finding it so bloody hard. I have days where I feel so strong and happy and then days when I’m so low and getting out of bed is ridiculously hard.
Why can’t I let this go and how long does it take?
Also, I think because we were engaged and this was my first proposal, it hurts that bit more and I feel I’m now ‘damaged goods’.
I’m 29 and she’s 24 by the way.
Post # 2
I had a broken engagement at 25 and if I remember correctly, it took me a good year before I was able to enjoy the outside world fully again. 4 months is still so soon, your emotions are still raw. You can’t calculate someone’s mourning process, and everyone is different. Don’t put pressure on yourself to get over everything fast; it doesn’t work that way. Unfortunately it will feel like a slow, painful process but one day you’ll wake up and you’ll feel a little happy again, hopeful and excited for the future again. GL.
Post # 3
It hasn’t been that long since she left. Give it more time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
4 months inst that long in the grand scheme of things. It took me almost a year to get over a pretty significant heartbreak. Be patient with yourself, grief isn’t linear; you’ll have good days and bad. Sooner or later you’ll realize you have more good days than bad and a little while later you’ll realize you’ve gone days without thinking about her. I know it hurts and its hard and you just want to be on the other side of this. But that wont help you move on. Feel what you’re feeling, sort through your emotions and make sure you’re actually working through everything so you’re a better you when you do meet the right person. I’m sorry this happened to you, but it will get better!
Post # 5
I agree about a year or even more to fully emotionally move on from a serious long term relationship. Altho, there’s some people you’ll just think about for decades to come.
Spend more time with friends, take up new hobbies, change your environment if you can, go out on dates, figure out who you are as a single person.. that’ll help speed things along.