(Closed) I’m really trying hard not to be Bridezilla here…

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You could always address it with her if you really felt ok about it.  Do you have your date reserved at that venue for sure?  


Post # 4
1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’d just say, “Look you didn’t want me to use your venue, so please understand and respect the same guidelines for mine.” I’m sure she’ll understand.

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

I would probably make a joke about it to let her know the scene didnt go unnoticed, but then let it lie.

I would say something like “Well they say imitation is the best flatter.! You must love me to be using my venue!” and then talk about something else.  

Post # 6
690 posts
Busy bee

It definitely wouldn’t be cool for her to use the same venue as you, after making a big deal about how you couldn’t use ‘her venue’.  Definitely say something.  Maybe like “haha, it’s kinda ironic that you asked me not to use your wedding venue and now you are thinking about using mine heh”. 

I think it would only bother me if her wedding was going to end up being BEFORE yours. 

Post # 8
10850 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was the same way. A few friends of mine have gotten married at gorgeous places, but I didn’t want to get married somewhere my friends had been to a wedding before, I wanted a place “of our own”. I wouldn’t mind if someone got married at our venue after us, I just wanted to be the first in our circle of friends 😉  Maybe she’ll pick another venue, but if not, you and Darling Husband will have a great time visiting the place again after. Maybe you could request your first dance song from the DJ, that would be so nice to dance to it again in the same place!!

Post # 9
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@keepsmiling19: It sounds like you guys are 2 different ppl, in regards to ways of dealing with things.  She is clearly a MINE kind of person, while it seems your not.  I can understand wanting your venue to be yours alone, but to be upset with her based on the fact that she ‘laid claim to Place A’ and now whats yours, isnt a very realistic argument.  How close are you to this person?  Is sitting and having a mature talk with her about this possible?  She may still want the place, so be prepared for that, and consider how willing you really are to let this effect you.  No matter what, that day, at that venue will always be yours, no one can take that away from you.

Post # 10
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Eh, I’m going to give a minority opinion here. I understand that it’s frustrating given her initial attitude about “her” preferrred spot, but honestly, even if she ended up getting married before you in the same place that you’re looking at now, I’d tell you not to get worked up about it or even make subtle comments about it. There’s not always a lot of options when choosing a venue…if you’re trying to stay in a certain price point and you want a certain kind of look/feel for your reception venue, then it may be that there just aren’t that many places to choose from!

Every venue hosts plenty of weddings every year and each one is different and special because it’s different people every time. Y’all may have the same venue but your weddings will be different! Try not to get hung up on the situation. In the grand scheme of things, it’s just not worth the energy. 🙂 I also wouldn’t bother to discuss it with her, because if she’s the kind of person to try to lay claim to a reception venue and then latch onto “your” place when that fell through, she probably wouldn’t get your point of view anyway and it will just create drama.

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