- Mrs. Scissors
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Maybe I’m overreacting, but I’m really upset.
(Sorry, this is a little on the long side).
When I got engaged in January, immediately upon returning back to Atlanta, I got together with one of my BFFs (for a long time my only BFF) to tell her the story, as she demanded :p, and I also asked her to be one of my bridesmaids. She said yes, cried, etc. Fast forward to June, and she got engaged! I was really excited for her, went over to her house, we had girly giggly time, and it was great fun. She said some stuff about what she wanted wedding-wise, and we talked some about what I was planning on doing wedding-wise. When I left that day, I was a little confused/sad that she didn’t immediately ask me to be a bridesmaid. I just assumed that she wasn’t up to speed on all of that stuff. (She’s from CA, and so I just assumed not a lot of the wedding stuff is beat into you like it is in the South. lol).
She expressed interest in some of the wedding blogs that I mentioned, so I spent a few hours compiling my favorite ones, made a list and sent what was good about each one to her. I got no response. I thought it was a little strange, but sort of shrugged it off because we’re both super busy with school stuff in two different places. We still would do random facebook wall-postings, etc. Nothing really that out of the ordinary.
A month later, I saw one of our mutual friends (but a pretty far-out of the center friend) post on her wall, “Your wedding is going to be the shit.” I was a little like, hm, wtf? She’s set date things? Or? I felt hurt and left out, but found no other wedding indicators.
I went the pansy-ass route by starting to write some wedding-related and/or bridesmaid stuff in with my regular posts to her, and she’d just ignore the weddingy parts. A few weeks ago, I finally was tired of worrying about it, and sent her a message:
Do you still want/are you able to be a bridesmaid? I understand either way, but I need to know. :p
She responded 20 minutes later with:
“OF COURSE I will be your bridesmaid!!”
So I thought, okay, whew, problem solved! I was still a little hurt/weirded out that she still hadn’t mentioned bridesmaid stuff to me. I just figured again, well, she hasn’t done that yet.
Fast forward to now, when I was piddling around on Facebook, and noticed a post by another one of our mutual friends on her wall:
Friend: “i LOVE you for picking black. i will get back to you on all the other things, but i just wanted to share my immediate excitement about that color choice. “
This made my spider senses go off, so i looked at the friend’s wall, to see that Annie had posted this:
“seriously late response, but yes, you should definitely come down here! I have a break from school Oct. 3 (Sat) – Oct. 6 (Tue). The next weekend is no good (unless you want to be my date for my honor fraternity’s semi-formal). When would be a… good time for you?
Three line is all that I can give you without talking about my wedding. Now for the update:
1. I am officially the anti-bride, I think my mother is disappointed
2. The wedding guide I’m using is called “The Selling of the American Wedding” and it’s all about how the wedding industry just makes up stuff you need to buy
3. I have a potential bridesmaid dress, if you get a chance, can you go try it on and tell me if you like it? http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-1/qid=1252388342/ref=gp_se_search-results-asin-redirect/177-8611182-1561310?ie=UTF8&asin=B002GIP3OM Or if you find another black dress that you like, send me a link. The theme is “non-ridiculous, uncomplicated.” thanks!!”
So obviously she’s been planning, obviously I’ve been left out of the equation, and I an just really, really upset. Maybe I’m bringing it upon myself by not being direct and asking her if I’m a bridesmaid or not, but I just don’t feel like that’s right.
I guess I just don’t really know what to do. I need help, advice, or anything.