Post # 1
Wedding is next month and I don’t have a shadow of a doubt that I’m marrying a man who I love and adore and know he feels the same for me.
I eat, talk and breath weddings now it is down to the weeks and it’s starting to make me feel CONSTANTLY stressed. I’m not sleeping properly and with some wedding dress drama last week it just compounded how I’m feeling.
I was so warn down from it all I started getting an ear infection and a headache I couldn’t shake so I took a couple of days off work and did next to no wedding related stuff. I watch films and caught up with my washing and napped through the days to catch up on my REM.
Now I’m back at work and everything feels heightened again. I’ve got a list of wedding related decisions to make and while it’s mainly “little” things I need to do I’ve still got to get my dress altered and go to France to get the alcohol (this will save us about £500, rather than bulk buying here in the UK)
It doesn’t matter how I look at my spreadsheets or how I try and takle one thing at a time, the lists overwhelm me and I just start to freak out a bit.
Most annoyingly I recongise what I’m doing and I know that I should be excited and on cloud 9 that it’s nearly “my turn” after knowing I wanted to marry my fiance 6 months in to our relationship. I don’t want to feel like I’m resenting the feeling of getting married and I certainly don’t want to look back afterwards and feel annoyed at myself that I didn’t let the little things go, I just cannot work out HOW to get there.
Sorry for the pity party, I know I don’t deserve one. Anyone got any advice?
Post # 3
First off, breathe! You are getting ready to marry the love of your life! Can you delgate any of these tasks to your Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaid, Fiance, Best Man, etc? Delgate what you can and save yourself some stress. Take a bubble bath when you get home to try and relax. Maybe add some lavender to the warm since lavender can have many calming effects.
Post # 4
Thanks arsing89 , I actually just re-read my post and it does sound like I’ve said it all in one breath!
I keep wondering what I can delegate out but the things I need to do are things *I* have to do, like getting dress altered, getting drink, check paper work arrived at civil office, speak to vendors about x,y and z. Choose where to go on minimoon, get wedding shoes.
My neck is stiff from a funky night sleep and I fully intend to have a hot bubble bath when I get in!
Post # 5
Yeah ask for help wherever you can. Can you send mom of Bridesmaid or Best Man to france to get the booze? Or have someone do some other errands for you? Use your resources. You need them!
Post # 6
I went through this exact same thing and one of the few things that helped (aside from lots of naps and ice cream) was going over the list with my then-FI. I would make a list of EVERY single thing that I had to do or figure out. I would get beyond overwhelmed and would start to panic and I would become miserable. I started taking the list to my husband just to show him everything that I had to do – he ended up going over it with me and would point out how a certain task would only take 5 minutes to do, how we didn’t have to worry about X until later, how he could help with Y task, etc. He was such a big help!
From then on any time I got overwhelmed with planning (and trust me, I understand about the list itself getting a gal frazzled) I would make a list and go over it with my husband.
Maybe that would work for you. 🙂