Post # 1
So I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago. I’m not regretting the decision. I know that I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I feel so alone now. I moved to a new city right before the breakup, so I’m here with no friends. I go to work and come home, and that’s it. I take my dog for walks around the apartment complex and bring him to the dog park once or twice a week. I met some people at the dog park, but they’re older (like 40-55, and I’m 23), so they’re not people I would want to meet up with for a drink or anything. On top of that, I’m having money problems, so any chance I had to go out for drinks with people disappeared. I have to save to pay next month’s rent until my fall loan money comes in. (I’m going into my last year of law school.) I just feel so lame spending all of my free time at home watching movies by myself. I am studying for the Patent Bar and applying for clerkships and jobs for after I graduate, but outside of stuff that I have to do, I have nothing. It’s so depressing.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely 🙁 If you were on the west coast I would be more than happy to take YOU out for drinks!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry! I know how that felt, when I moved here I felt so alone even though my husband was here. Do you have any people your age at work that you can spend time with?
Post # 5
Oh Boston Bee I’m so sorry you are feeling alone. It will get better. Have you seen if there are any classes you’d be interested in taking that are reasonably priced (workout classes, zumba, arts & crafts etc?)
Post # 6
Try looking into programs at your local library. They are often free and very interesting/intellectual. If you’re religious at all church can be a good place to meet people. And don’t discount the “older” people that you met at the dog park if they seemed nice. Sometimes it is good to have friends of all different ages as they introduce you to new things. What about crafting classes or an exercise class at the local gym? It might also be a good time to do some “home organizing” that you don’t have a chance to do when things are busy! 🙂
Question: Was the moved planned before the “break up” or did it happen because of the “break up”? I think that would make a difference on your perception .. .
Post # 7
The library is a great suggestion!
Volunteering can be a great way to meet people as well. Plus it’s a great way to keep busy…
Post # 8
There is one girl at work who I have hung out with before, but now that money is an issue, I can’t really do anything. I have about $850 in my checking account, and my rent is $585, so I don’t really have any money after my other bills. And I know my parents would give me some money if I asked, but I hate asking them, so that’s a last resort for me. I think I may just take Melvin to the dog park more because the people there are so nice, and it’s nice to sit and chat with people for an hour or so. I would love to do some exercise classes, but again, money is an issue. I wonder if there are any free running clubs around the Tampa/St. Pete area.
@puppymom: the move was planned before the breakup. I have a summer job in Tampa, but I’m moving back to Tallahassee in August. I already found a new apartment. (My bf and I were living together.)
Post # 9
I am sorry that you feel this way. you will find friends i am sure…just hang in there 🙂
I second puppymom… Also, once you start school you will meet people in no time and i am sure they will have a lot in common with you. Most students are living somewhere they are not used to and have money problems 🙂
Keep your head up, things will get better for you! Keep us posted….you always have us to talk to 🙂
Post # 10
Hugs Boston, I’ve been there. I would second teh library, but would also add taht if you like any sports like soccer etc, finding a pick up game can be a really good and cheap (free!) way to meet age appropriate new people. Meetup.com is the perfect starting point.
If you aren’t into sports, then try a book club. Lots of them are geared at younger people, and sometimes singles. Good luck!
Post # 11
@Mr. Bee: Once my job is over in 2 weeks, I’m going to be volunteering with Guardian ad Litem, so that should keep me somewhat busy for the 3 weeks before I move back to Tallahassee.
Post # 12
I’m sorry. I was in your shoes at a time too, and I know how crappy it feels. My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks after I moved out here, just out of school, no money, no savings, new job, crappy crappy new job…. and while I knew some people, I was just starting to get to know them. I met my Fiance 6 months later 🙂 Stay strong, you never know what’s right around the corner!
Post # 13
@mrbee: “Thank you” says the former Librarian 🙂
Post # 14
Have you tried to hook up with your college or sorority alumni group in the Tallahassee area?? I’ve found that is a fun way to meet people with a common interest…
Post # 15
@Boston Bee: Hang in there girlie, anything is possible in the short term. Besides that beautiful FL weather is FREE and you’ve got your puppy buddy to keep you company.
Being away might be a “Plus” because when you get back your breakup will be old news!
Post # 16
Hugs! I ditto babyboo’s comment but substitute Ohio for west coast.