I'm scared I might be a virgin for the rest of my life and never have sex?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Ok? Then go have sex. It’s not that hard. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

ilovetoshopp :  why do you feel this way? You can’t just throw that out there and not give us any context lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Then go have sex? Call a friend. Go to a bar and go home with someone. Call an ex. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Listen, this is something that is almost entirely in your control.  If you are an adult woman and you want sex, you can have it TONIGHT.  I promise you, if you go to a bar tonight and approach random men and say “Hey, want to just go have no-strings sex?”, you will not be a virgin tomorrow.  It doesn’t matter what you look like, someone is going to take you up on that.

But honestly, it won’t be in any meaningful way satisfying.  You are not any different of a person once a penis has breeched the outer rim of your vagina than you were in the moments before it heads up there.  There is no appreciable difference between virigin you and nonvirgin you.

If you just want to check sex off your to-do list, go do that and be safe.  But if you’re looking for an actual meaningful change, maybe identify what that really is and don’t confuse it with getting a random dick in you for a few minutes, 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I love how this is posed as a question!!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

 Does the OP have a jeweled belly button and hair that stands up on end ??

I’d say yes !!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Is this because you’re waiting for “the one” to have sex and haven’t found him yet and feel too old to be a virgin? If so, there are tons of Bees who found their SO later in life and would be happy to share their stories or tips on how to find a like-minded partner for you. 

I waited until my husband to have sex. Did that make me feel like an old virgin that may never have sex sometimes? Yes. Was it frustrating? Yes. But it was also worth it to me. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I know everyone on here is saying “just go find someone,” and they’re not wrong.  But if it’s really your first time, you want to make sure it’s with someone who will be patient and understanding.  I don’t recommend having sex with a rando from a bar, because most of those people are going to be…more experienced.

If you’re waiting for marriage and that’s why you’re still a virgin, then maybe reevaluate where you’re looking for love and make sure people have the same long term goals in mind.  If you’re not bothered by sex before marriage, then get yourself into a good relationship and just make sure that your partner understands your situation.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I’m sure you have waited for a reason. But once you meet someone that you can be yourself and are comfortable with. You will find yourself wanting to have sex and it will happen. Just let nature take its course. Just remember there is someone for everyone.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

DeniseSecunda :  I believe she is calling the OP a troll, as in the little troll dolls, but I could be wrong. 😉

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

hickoryhills :  OP, hickoryhills’ reply makes the most sense for me. Doing that for the first time with a very patient person  is really important, since it may actually takes a lot of “takes” to actually get there right, to learn to enjoy it and to share it with one another. I don’t think everyone always “gets it” the first time ever, some takes more time than the other and it’s alright. It’s more like something that comes slowly with time to get it right, sometime 🙂

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