(Closed) “im scared that i might cheat on you…”

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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1713 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Yea, this is a huge warning flag. I’d leave now if I were you. 

Post # 49
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203 posts
Helper bee

Before I read your last response, I was going to suggest you saying to her “Now you have me worried I’ll cheat on you…”. Not that you would [hopes] but maybe it would allow you to discover the reason behind her thinking (not to mention she would know what it felt like to hear those awful words).

Anyway, it’s your life and your choice and I really do hope it works out well for you.

However it’s packaged, cheating is the absolute pits.

Post # 50
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11373 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Personally, I think you deserve better.  Like a woman who will miss you like crazy, not one who is already thinking about cheating.

If you’re a mature person in love, being faithful is not so terribly hard.  A better woman would be telling you about some new hobby or interest she plans to use to help fill the void.

Post # 51
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5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@linearme88: Best of luck to you as you guys are LDR. And thanks for coming back to update..it always keeps me wondering when the OP never comes back, haha.

I still say she needs to be a little more mature in the relationship, like 

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@sassy411: says. Yes, it’s, uh, ‘great’ that she was honest with you about her concerns. But if she’s concerned about needing attention, she’s equally capable of driving to see you and make sure her needs are met. Both people are responsible for relationships, not just one. I hope that things smooth out, but I’m glad she says that she didn’t mean it how it came across. 

Post # 52
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If that’s the way she feels, I think it’s a good thing that she was able to openly tell you about it.  I think that in some ways it’s a reasonable fear for her to have- she’s done it in the past, but she feels more committed to you, so she doesn’t really know for sure how her sense of commitment to you will mitigate her cheating tendencies.  In my opinion, it’s better than her keeping the thought to herself.  Also, it probably means she’s more likely to tell you if it actually happens.

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