- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Ok so I’m so embarrassed that I had to make this account to tell this story. THIS WILL BE LONG, IT MIGHT LOOK LIKE A MOVIE OR SO, BUT ITS REAL.. Im truly confused and I don’t know what to do, so any advice is very much appreciated..
First of all, I’m 25 years old, I’ve been with my bf for 5 years and 3 months (breaking up and getting back together ofcourse), we got engaged last year and everything was going good.
He is a great guy, super handsome, very romantic, lovely, sweet to the bones, caring, but he is VERY VERY insecure. We actually had a lot of problems because of that before, he is super jealous, possessive and VERY demanding. He cheated on me 3 times before when we were starting And he changed after that and so did I.. I learned to be independant and I opened my eyes to reality, but I forgave him.
(we had a problem on December 2012 cause a friend of my best friend hitted on him and he flirted back after being engaged, she knew he was engaged too.. Nothing happened but they flirted so I was so upset I even thought of leaving him..)
We worked it out for the last years and everything was going good, then he proposed and we got a lot closer, until one day on January this year, I was looking for some guys who could play music on our ceremony and I went to a music school from where I live to find guys who could do the job you know, and so I was kinda lost cause the school is huge and so I asked for help. Everybody kept telling me “they were busy” or “I’m sorry I can’t help you”.. Until this guy who was reading told me: “I think I know someone hold on.. Here’s his number, give him a call he plays piano and has a band with violins and stuff, he’s very good (:”…
He helped me out, he called the guy himself, arranged the meeting and even walked me back to the entrance. While we walked back we talked and we had a lot of things in common. It felt good to talk cause I haven’t had a real “guy friend” since my boyfriend is so possessive and jealous. So we exchanged Facebook pages and said goodbye.
Like 3-4 days after he added me, we started talking again, normal short conversation. One night my grandma got diagnosed with cancer I felt horrible and called my boyfriend but he didn’t answered since it was late at night. He was on, and I felt like I needed to talk it out so I told him, he listened to me and helped me out again, he told me the story of her mom who survived cancer too an that’s why he became a Christian. He gave me advice and made me feel good again. Te next morning I told my boyfriend about my grandma, he just told me: “dont worry, shes not going to die yet, not before the wedding..” That killed me. But I remained silent.
After the guy & I started talking daily, he helped me out with some stuff for my wedding I needed to organize and he was supportive. After a while, I started liking him and so did he, non of us said a thing until one day I couldn’t helped it and told him I had to stop talking to him because of that.. He said he felt the same way about me and thaIthe never meaned to, neither do I. So we agreed to stop talking..
I lasted less then a week, I called him and told him “let’s talk again, I will do my best not to like you, but let’s be friends..” He said yes ofcourse so we started talking again..
To make it short, we kept talking, we liked each other more and more, ive got to know him and there are so many things of him I like and I wish I could see in my boyfriend (like patience, loyalty, respect me, hes punctual, he fears God, etc) and we’ve even said “why didnt I met you before?..”
Now i dont know how I feel, now im very confused.. I don’t know what to do with him or myself… 🙁