(Closed) I’m sick of hearing “How are the wedding plans going?”

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Tell them to ask you in a year. That’s it. Nice and blunt without being bitchy Smile

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

I’d just say “good” and then ask them about their kids or other diversionary subjects.  I get it a lot too.  Changing the subject usually works as most of the time people are asking out of politeness. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Just wait till you get married.  Then they’ll start asking, “How’s married life?”!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I find this question really annoying too. It’s like no one has anything to talk to me about anymore other than wedding stuff. So when I am asked, I say “really good!”, and then move on to asking about them. It seems to work for me.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree with the others, I always just said “good.” Or you could say that the wedding is far away so you’re not doing much yet, maybe they won’t ask again the next day if they know you’re not busy planning.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Future Mother-In-Law who is not contributing to the wedding is constantly calling to ask us what progress we have made on our planning.  I’m so irritated by the fact that she hasn’t even offered to help do anything, that I really don’t even care to fill her in on the details.  To me, she is just another guest who can be surprised when the day gets here…  Ugh, I think I’m in a mood today…

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think people are just trying to make small talk and be friendly! I got this question a lot too, and quickly realized that most of the time they don’t want a real answer. So I would just use one of several one sentence answers that I had (which changed a bit over time), like “We got all of our vendors booked, I feel good!” or “you know, this week I decided that J can plan the rest of it, haha” or “We’re right on schedule” or stuff like that. Simple, vague, positive (I tried to never complain to people who asked in small talk mode, and saved that for girl friends who actually cared, or J). And then I would change the subject, ask them a question about themselves. People looooove to talk about themselves, so it’s usually a pretty easy way to get them to stop asking questions.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I get that at my one job all the time. Like every week. It gets annoying sometimes, especially when I don’t really have any update, but I know they’re just interested in what’s going on.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

I think its a question a lot like “How are you today?” Most people dont really want to know if you are doing miserable, its a greeting of sorts.  As the others have said, just say great, or we wont be starting for a while and that will take care of it.  Its probably all a lot of them are looking for. If they actually want more information they would ask more specific questions like “have you chosen a dress?” 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I get this question probably from everyone I know Literally every time I’m face to face with them 🙂 SO now I have taken the question and ran with it. Going on and on and on about all the little Very trivial things I might have done toward wedding planning that week. If they want to bug me and ask…I’m will answer to the fullest of my capability and make them regret it lol 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Lol, I hate that question aa well.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel like if it bothers you, then don’t tell people in the first place? Seems simple, no?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Then you’re really gonna love “How’s married life?” and “When’s the baby coming?”

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I haven’t had a great wedding planning experience. And I hear this question every.single.day. and it honestly makes me cringe. Yeah, I could sit there and tell them all the drama of everything that’s going on, but that would take forever and I’m sure they aren’t really interested.  I know this may sound awful but a lot of them may just be asking to be polite. Kind of like asking how someone is doing; if you give any answer but “Good and you?” people look at you like you’re crazy. Honestly, when was the last time you asked a customer how they were doing and you got “well, I don’t know, I’m having a lot of problems with my family….” yeah, almost never. 

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